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  1. page Sex Differences -- Class Blog edited ... In this research study **http://www.bsd-journal.com/content/4/1/20** on major depressive and a…
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    In this research study **http://www.bsd-journal.com/content/4/1/20** on major depressive and anxiety disorders shows that sexual dimorphism in brain dysfunctions and altered hormones may help decipher why women are more prone to these mood disorders than men. Understanding the biological basis behind women’s vulnerability could help to discover at-risk women earlier and treat their symptoms. These findings could even open a door to discovering more and understanding sexual dimorphism in the human brain. (8237, 1/26/14 Week 2 Post)
    I thought Chapter 4 of The Female Brain was interesting because I always believed that there was no reason that women orgasm. It makes sense, however, that the muscle contractions provided by orgasm pull in sperm to the egg and that the orgasm keeps a woman on her back for longer after inseminated in, increasing chances of conception. From reading, I was unable to tell if this is just a theory or a proven fact, but from an evolutionary perspective it is understandable and purposeful. In addition, I found it interesting to learn the reasons behind the fact that it is difficult for women to orgasm. I always assumed that many women did not reach orgasm because there was no real reason to in the first place. The author made it easy to understand that for women, psychological factors such as stress, anger, and worry (which are often on the female mind in terms of their relationships with men) hinder the ability to have an orgasm. This was an idea that had never crossed my mind before reading this chapter, which is why this section was enjoyable. (3259- April 13, 2011)
    I found the first two chapters in both "The Male Brain" and "The Female Brain" to be very insightful depictions of male and females. The stereotypes of the genders that we have all heard since birth seem to be founded in actual scientific evidence. The different ways that typical male and female brains are formed are a strong explanation for the differences in the sexes. However, my questions evolve around the heterosexual men that enjoy doing things that girls typically enjoy. If a heterosexual man enjoys creating deeper relationships with his peers and participating in activities usually reserved for women how do we explain that? Is the answer physiological? Is it simply how they have been nurtured? Or is it a combination of both? (8674, 9/13/17).
    Does the release of pheromones from a pregnant woman depend on her age? Will a woman who is in her prime fertility age range have a higher release of pheromones than an older woman who is pregnant? Could this effect the father's hormonal response? (0419)
    I really enjoyed reading the The Daddy Brain chapter in The Male Brain. It was interesting to learn how different men view parenthood and how their emotions can change so drastically during different stages of parenthood, ranging from pregnancy to adulthood of the child. It got me thinking of how what I should do during parenthood to ensure my child's success later down the road in life. It was by far my most favorite chapter of either book for it brought me in and makes me want to learn even more about differences in parenting. (9814)
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Monday, September 4

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Saturday, September 2

  1. page Homework1 edited ... 11. There are other guys talking to their girlfriend or showing some type of interest in her. …
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    11. There are other guys talking to their girlfriend or showing some type of interest in her. (0224)
    11. Other guys ask me to dance with them
    11. another man gets the girl he likes.(8804)
    11. They see their girlfriend talking to another guy that they do not like or is better than them. (9745)
    11. You talk to people of the other sex (0496)
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    12. tends to be just as nervous (0224)
    12. Lean forward for a kiss and tend to get very touchy
    12. can get too pushy too quick.(8804)
    Should ask for consent before taking it to the next level. (9745)
    12. Is sometimes not as forward as the stereotype, but if we were going with the stereotypical “man’s man,” then they can move just way too fast without considering the woman’s feelings (0469)
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    13. Emotions, non-explicit communicative cues (0496)
    13. our emotions and why we like to communicate more about them. (6553)
    13. women’s menstrual cycle.(8804)
    13. Period cramps
    13. …connecting emotional cues to their cause (8778).
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    14. Does not care about (0496)
    14. Can either be very good or need to put more effort on
    14. should be because it helps them be more attractive.(8804)
    14. ... should enjoy and want to bring about and hopefully take part in it (1569)
    14. should put more effort into and engage in quite often (8090)
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    15. “If you love me you would suck my dick” (0496)
    15. Inviting them to meet their family/friends
    15. forgetting their birthday.(8804)
    #15....seeing how they react when another man is flirting with them. (1333)15. introducing her to his family. (6553)
    #15. …bringing them around their friends, seeing how they take dates into the matter of their own hands, how they are around a setting with multiple girls and how he shares his attention, and eventually bringing them around family. (8701)
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    16. They just don't, stereotypically
    #16. …anything domestic, sports.(8701)
    16. equal pay.(8804)
    16. career or job position. Men always want to make more money than women. (6553)
    16. Women not being good at cooking, cleaning, or taking care of children
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    Should not take seriously because it can lead to problems in a relationship.(9745)
    17. Is more guilty of than they realize (0496)
    17. has with their girlfriends.(8804)
    17. struggles with and have trouble controlling. (6553).
    17. tends to have. (7497)
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    18. …finds it important and often tries to match it with their own. (8778)
    18. Can be good looking without even trying
    18. values it highly.(8804)
    18. is hit or miss 1524
    18. tends to judge a girl off of it. (7497)
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    Should value because it is important in the future if you have a family to raise.(9745)
    19. Values quite a bit, but for themselves. I don’t think men particularly care if their prospective partners have money and status, but of course that’s a bonus. (0496)
    19. thing is important.(8804)
    19. ...are impressed by, but also intimidated by (1569)
    19. …appreciate and try to match with their own status (8778)
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    20. ...fails to treat me with respect and to see me for the individual that I am, no matter the situation (1569)
    20. doesn't at least try and empathize with your feelings or act like they care that you are upset. (7497)20. is disrespectful and underestimates women (8090)
    20. treat women like an object.(8804)
    20. …focuses solely on physical intimacy and appearance, rather than regarding me for the whole person that I am and appreciating what else I have to offer. (8778)
    20. is late and don't appear to respect my time 1524
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    21. They are kind and respectful. (0496)
    21. They make me feel safe and protected instead of intimidated
    21. they are respectful and protective.(8804)
    21. ... they see and value the positive qualities that I possess and we can mutually enjoy each othesr company (1569)
    21. I am around my boyfriend. (7497)
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  2. page Homework1 edited ... Weakness: Not so good at communication and expressing their feelings. 5. Men’s weakness is t…
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    Weakness: Not so good at communication and expressing their feelings.
    5. Men’s weakness is that they do not know how to order food! They struggle with properly communicating what they want and then become upset when their order is wrong. However, their strength is they do not hold grudges. Although a friend can say or do something offensive, men tend to shrug it off and become buddies like nothing happened. (0224
    5. The strength of males is how they seem to be protective in tough or scary situations. Their first reaction is to protect the people around them quickly, where as for females it may take longer for them to figure out what to do. A weakness I see that males have is how they do not think things through. Sometimes the way they answer questions come out wrong because they do not think before they speak as much as women do. Also, their actions at times can be dumb because they do not think about the consequences before acting.(8804)
    5. Men tend to be less self-critical and I think that is a strength. They are not in touch with their emotions which I think is a weakness and they are not good a communication. (7497)
    5) I believe that guy's strengths are being straightforward, driven, and move on from an emotional situation easily. Guys have the tenacity to just say how they feel, and I think that is great because it creates a better relationship with the girl. Weaknesses that guys have are that they are not empathetic and do not pay attentions. They do not take other’s opinions seriously, and I find that not a good thing because it can hurt many people’s feelings.(9745)
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    6. There have been instances when I feel that I have been treated unfairly by the opposite sex because they have put their needs before mine. For example, someone I was seeing was afraid of putting a title on our relationship due to fear from a previous relationship, but a title was something that was important to me. (8778)
    6.I’ve had many experiences with being treated unfairly by the opposite sex, but one particular instance that happened in an academic setting stands out. I was in AP Chemistry as a senior in high school and a boy from the brother school was also in the class. Just from the way he spoke he clearly had sexist values and one day they manifested into a comment he made to me stating, “Girls are too stupid to be in science and that’s why I don’t want to do this project with you.” He made this comment in a class full of high school girls and our teacher who was also a female and had a Ph.D. 1524
    6. I cannot think of a time that a male treated me unfairly. (8804)
    6. I have recently been mistreated by my now ex-boyfriend. He had left on a family vacation and had told me he was going to tell his family we were going to get back together after one of our thousands of break ups. While he was gone, I found out he had cheated on me and not told his family anything. He proceeded to break up with me online and ignored me for over 3 months. This was the most disrespectful thing that the opposite sex has ever done to me because while I was feeling all these emotions I got no closure or recognition for the pain I was going through. After giving time to someone and investing feelings into them I believe that they should have enough respect to have a conversation like that in person. Again, this showed me that some men decide to run from problems and feelings and push it under the surface rather than deal with it head on. (6955)
    6. One instance where I remember being treated unfairly was in high school, specifically in the marching band. In marching band, we had section leaders, who were assigned to each section in order to supervise and help when the band director could not. Often times, the section leader is supposed to be the most capable player in the section, and even though I was more capable than one of my counterparts, they were chosen instead of me. Even when we were both the section leaders, often times people would ask him for this advice in terms of music instead of me, usually when they were not from our section and did not know about the differences in our abilities.(0974)
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    7) I have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex many times. There has been times when a guy helped me carry heavy objects and paid for my meals. One time, I was in a rush to the airport, and this guy saw me struggling to carry my luggage to my destination and decided to help me carry it. I was really shocked by his actions, but it made me think that guys should always help girls when they are struggling to carry heavy objects. (9745)
    7. Men sometimes yell compliments at me or attempt to start conversations with me for the sake of getting my number. In a less overtly creepy way, men will sometimes open the door for me. (0496)
    7. There has been a time a have been treated well by a male. Once in downtown LA a man was letting me park in his car wash that was inside a public parking lot for free because he thought I was pretty. It was very weird and I did not accept, and after paying for parking, he kept saying how I didn’t have to pay if I parked in his spot, and how I could have saved money. Although t was a nice gesture in the beginning, after it started to feel like he was trying to make me feel bad for not taking his offer.
    7. Yes, I believe that women are given preferential treatment especially in night social-settings. Women are let into parties and bars much more frequently that men, and once inside they are given preferential treatment often by being bought drinks, etc. (1569)
    7. It is hard to think of an instance when I have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex because of my gender as a woman. A possible example could be when I visit my grandparents and my grandpa puts my brother to work doing labor in his backyard and allows me to relax. However, while this was nice, this could be taken as my grandpa not believing I am as capable as my brother. (8778)
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    8. In middle school I had a crush on a guy who had a crush on my best friend. He rejected me indirectly by always paying constant attention to her when she was around and making me feel invisible. I knew he didn't mean to, but it was definitely somewhat insensitive. I think being rejected is always hard because its nothing but personal, so it hurts like crazy. I guess he could have tried to be considerate or a little more discrete about his feelings for her when I was around (1569)
    8. I was rejected by a guy who initially showed a lot of interest in me, but stopped as soon as I seemed interested as well. He rejected me by completely cutting me off, such as not replying to my texts and being very short if we ran into each other in person. His behavior was rude and insensitive, especially considering we had been friends before. It made me very disappointed in our friendship and could have been handled better with clear communication. (8778)
    8. I have not yet gone after someone I find attracted, therefore I have not felt rejected by someone I find attractive.(8804)
    8.He rejected me over text message and his behavior was quite considerate for how awful of a person he is. It made me feel upset, but also relieved that I finally had an answer of if he liked me or not. 1524
    #8. I’ve been rejected in instances that where I had high hopes for something, but not in a sense that I’ve approached someone and they’ve rejected me in a way that has to do with a conversation where I put myself out there to ask them out. It was a rejection that I asked what we were, and my head was in a complete different place than he was that led to me feeling like I put myself out there and got rejected for doing so. It wasn’t rude, but it was definitely inconsiderate in a way that I felt as though he should have told me before I felt the need to establish that thin line. It made me feel as though I shouldn’t invest time into relationships unless I know there is complete reciprocation. I think a more considerate way would be for him to be more in tune with the way that I was communicating with him and understanding that my feelings were going in the opposite direction as him, but at the same time I can’t expect the opposite sex to understand what I’m feeling from observation. (8701).
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    9. I would move closer to them or initiate casual contact like brushing his arm or maybe grab onto his arm. (7497)
    9) I would start making physical eye contact to make him know that I want to become physically intimate. Before everything gets into action, I would ask them if they are okay with being in intimate because consent is the key in all relationships. It would not be a good thing to pressure someone to be intimate because if you do get intimate, you would not feel comfortable.On the other hand, if the he does feel like being intimate, than I would be flirty and start getting close to him. From there, it will just be a natural gesture in what will happen if he decides to kiss me or not. (9745)
    9. If I knew a male for about a month, and we have gone on several dates and there has still been no intimacy but I find him very physically attracted, I would ask him if he also finds me attractive or not because I find him attractive. If he does, then I would just ask why he has not tried to hold my hand or kiss me, and that would answer my questions and maybe lead to it actually happening.(8804)
    9. It would be time to turn up the flirts. Sometimes some men aren’t as forward as the stereotype, so in addition to flirting I might have to make the first move when the time is right. Since we haven’t really been physically intimate before this date I would probably only go as far as a kiss this time. (0496)
    9. If I was on a date with this person again, I would try to kiss him. Depending on what we were doing on the date what influence when and how I would try to initiate this. i think I would wait for a moment when we were alone or had some privacy and stare into their eyes and then close mine and move my head towards him to kiss him. If we were in a car this would probably be easy to do when he was about to drop me off at home. If this went well and the kissing was reciprocated, I would probably start unbuttoning his shirt or tugging at it to see if he wanted to go further, and judging from his response, take it farther or stop there. (38750)
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    10) I would say I am not ready for any sexual relationship, and would like to take this relationship slowly to see where things take us. I think that the key would be having less dreamy eye contacts and not getting too close to the guy because if you get too close to the guy, they might feel that you are turned on by them. It is best to be clear that you are not interested sexually because sometimes the guy may not understand and will still take things to the next level. If you are confident in what you say about this sexual relationship, than he will most likely respect what you say. (9745)
    10. Say things like, “It’s cool that we’re friends and can just hang like this” and stuff like that. Body language would be closed off and away, less eye contact, shrugging away from touch. If worse comes to worse I might have to be explicit and just tell the person I’m not attracted to them to their face if they’re too oblivious. I’d rather not do this because stereotypically, men do not take rejection well. (0496)
    10. If I was not attracted to the person, but he obviously was attracted to me, I would let him know exactly how I feel. I would not want to lead him on and possibly have him try something sexual with me if I did not feel the same way. I would rather be honest and let him know that I do not feel the same way he does about our relationship. It would be hard because I do not want to hurt someone’s feelings, but it is always better to be honest, you just need to know how to say things.(8804)
    10. I would try to create distance between me and this person. If they stepped closer to me, I would back up and slowly step backwards. However, I am really bad at this and if someone I don't want to kisses me, I will kiss them back because I would feel too awkward to say no because I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. (38750)
    10. I would make it clear that I wanted to remain in public places to avoid any further intimacy (such as not wanted to go back to either of our places, or somewhere where I knew that we would be alone together) and then just try to be clear and emphasize my enjoyment in spending time with him and talking to him such that there is an emphasis away from the physical aspects of our relationship. (1569)
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  3. page Homework 1men edited ... Spring 2017 class: #1. When I was in high school all the girls in our prom group spent severa…
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    Spring 2017 class:
    #1. When I was in high school all the girls in our prom group spent several hours preparing. They each spent so much time doing their makeup, hair, nails, preparing their dresses, etc. Meanwhile all the guys spent maybe half an hour at most to get ready. I found it really interesting that all the girls made such a massive production out of a school dance while all the guys did not seem to put as much thought into it. (8674)
    1. I cannot seem to recall anything deeply puzzling to me or incomprehensible regarding the opposite sex. I was however quite surprised by how my friend reacted to a situation I describe in question 8. Please refer to question 8. In this situation, I could identify her motivations for reacting the way she did in avoiding a commitment with me as holding out and maintaining availability for a more desirable, higher status male in which she had fantasized a relationship with. She was pushed by her desire to attain the highest-level status possible at what she perceived to be the highest stakes event. She did not want to waste time or opportunity on a male with which she would not mate or forge a long-lasting relationship with. (9698)
    1. One puzzling interaction that I have had with a girl occurred with one of my best friends throughout high school. During high school, our friendship became very flirty and we ended up dating each other for a while. However, when we broke up, she continued to treat and talk to me the same way that we did when we were together. She would make comments and gestures that seemed like she wanted to get back together, but even when I confronted her about it, she never gave a straight answer. I was confused as to why she could not just say yes or no and have allowed us to move on from there. (0242)
    1) This happens to me all the time. Up until I moved to college I was mostly around women when I was home. My dad worked long hours so it was just my mom, my sisters, and I. Whenever one of them was on their period it was like walking on eggshells. There was absolutely nothing I could do or say that was right. One time specifically I remember telling my sister something so simple like, “let’s go do something. All you do is watch Netflix all day” and she just started crying. And when I asked her why she was crying she said she didn’t even know she just couldn’t help it. I was so puzzled that I kind of chuckled because it made absolutely no sense. She herself didn’t even understand why she was feeling so emotional. (1761)
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    Question 1. One situation in particular that always confuses me is when I hear girls say that they like “bad boys.” It has always baffled me that girls want a guy who is either ‘player,’ rude, cocky, disrespectful, and overly aggressive. In many cases when girls end up in relationships with these types of guys, they usually suffer and regret being in the relationship. It also confuses me when girls say, “nice guys finish last,” because I don’t understand why being with a nice guy would be a bad thing. I’m sure there is something alluring about a “bad boy,” but I would think that would only be in a sexual context. When it comes to long-term relationship, I don’t understand why it would be smart to waste your time with a guy who doesn’t seem to treat anybody with decency or respect. (4788)
    #2. In general, what do you like about the opposite sex? What do you dislike? Again, think of the opposite sex in general, as they actually are, not how you might like them to be different.
    2. I love that women can listen intently, deeply, and give good advice. I love that I can usually feel comforted by some sort of interaction with a woman, especially my mom. I especially enjoy their desire to nurture and support, as I feel like I can be open and real with women. I also appreciate how much effort they put into looking their best. I don’t particularly appreciate how they can be so petty or judgmental towards other women they may be competing with. I can be put off by how manipulative they can be towards others. (9698)
    #2. I like how open to talking they tend to be. My most emotionally deep conversations are often with my friends who are girls. They are more open to really discussing how they feel and tend to be more empathetic than guys are. I do not like that, in my experience, they will not be as straight forward as my guy friends. There are times when being direct and not beating around the bush are preferred and I have not gotten that as much with the women in my life. Also, I have noticed significantly more willingness by my girl friends to engage in gossip and putting down other people in a very manipulative and sneaky way. (8674)
    2. There are several things that I like about women, however, the thing that sticks out to me the most is the effort that they put into everything they do. Women tend to put in more effort than men do when it comes to appearances, relationships, and any work or activity that they are participating in. They also have a more nurturing and caring nature than men do which makes it easier and better to go to my friends that are girls when problems arise in my life. I dislike how self-critical they can be and how judgmental they can be towards others. I also dislike how they tend to over analyze every situation and rarely listen to guys when they are trying to help them. (0242)
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    Question 2. In my experience, I’ve found females to be caring, inclusive, open-minded, thoughtful, expressive, and funny individuals. In my opinion, these qualities are what make a really good friend. When it comes to friendship, you want someone who will genuinely care about your well-being, be open-minded enough to allow you to be your authentic self, and be communicative of their feelings. I believe girls tend to bring these elements to friendships more often than boys. Despite having said this, girls can also be vindictive and overly passive. As a friend, you don’t want to surround yourself with someone who will hold things against you. It can also be frustrating to have a friend who can never stand up for themselves or their opinions. (4788)
    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
    3. I feel like women misunderstand the intentions of men at times specifically in terms of relationships, dating, and sex. Like all men are not always and only trying to sleep with women. At different times, men can be looking for other things like an actual relationship. Men have goals and desires for long term commitment too, but I will admit that since men can shift it can be somewhat confusing. If feel like many girls just think guys lead them on for sex; I would hope that no guy would ever intentionally lead someone else on. (9698)
    #3. That we all do not like talking out how we are feeling. I think we have been raised since birth under the impression that we are not supposed to so that causes some of us to be emotionally distant. Just as women are three dimensional, complex human beings, men are as well. (8674)
    3. I believe that the thing that women most misunderstand about men is that they are all not trying to sleep with you. Yes, that is probably a thought that comes across our minds sooner or later, it is typically not a reason they are talking to a woman. There are many men, including myself, that would rather get to know the woman first and on a deeper level before trying to sleep with them. (0242)
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    Question 4. I would think that the most attractive quality of opposite sex would be femininity. Although females have various amounts of ‘femininity’ depending on the individual, more often than not, that is how they get a guys attention. If men wanted a person who was exactly like them, they would date each other (and they do sometimes). Some feminine qualities are being caring, expressive, nurturing, and gentle. A lot of guys would agree that these are qualities they would like for their companions. (4788)
    #5. In your opinion, what are the strengths and weaknesses of the opposite sex?
    5. Women are really good at complex social thought and getting to the root causes of issues or motivations of others which is valuable. I feel women are weak in caring far too deeply about what others think of them. This can lead to a number of self-esteem and mental health or even body issues. (9698)
    #5. The strengths of the opposite sex include: their organization skills, their amazing ability to decorate their rooms and make them look cute, their empathy for others, and their uncanny ability to detect when something is wrong. The weaknesses of the opposite sex include: overthinking a lot, being more prone to drama with each other, making all men out to be like animals, and hurting each other emotionally. (8674)
    5. I believe their strengths are the ability to be empathetic, communicate well, and to understand most situations through multiple perspectives. Women are able to express their feelings in a more articulate way than men can while also having the ability to sense when others around them are dealing with a difficult time. They can also see situations through other individuals’ perspectives and help them get through these situations by looking at situation in more than one scope. One weakness that I believe women possess is caring too much about what others think about them. I believe that women are also concerned what others think which is why they need to constantly be complimented and reassured by those around them. I also think that this plays a factor in them being more self-critical. (0242)
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    Question 5. Females tend to have a major disadvantage when it come to their sex from a contextual standpoint. Despite living in a patriarchal society, women have great strength, intellect, and perseverance. Having said that, being the disadvantaged sex can also lead to women being insecure, passive, and complacent. (4788)
    #6. Can you think of any instances in which you have personally been treated unfairly by the opposite sex? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    6. I can’t really recall any time I was treated super unfairly by the opposite sex. I have only experienced mild assumptions that proved to be incorrect, but none of these were detrimental or damaging. (9698)
    #6. When I had a girlfriend she broke my heart. I cared about her more than anything and tried so hard to make her life easier than she broke up with me simply because she did not want to have a boyfriend anymore. Afterwards, herself and her friends turned their backs on me and acted like she was the victim in the situation somehow. I will never understand why that happened. (8674)
    6. When I was with one of my ex-girlfriends in high school, we had a mutual break up and then after a while I realized that I wanted to get back together with her. I started a conversation with her about how I still had feelings for her and how I wanted to try a relationship one more time. She had feelings too, however, she wanted to try a relationship with a new guy so we ended up not getting back together. I was hurt and I told her that I needed space since we were in the same friend group, but instead, she purposely inserted herself and the new guy in everything that I did with some of our friends. She also purposely ruined a potential relationship I could have had with this girl that I was talking to because she didn’t want another girl to be with me since she still had feelings. (0242)
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    Question 6. I can’t really think of instances in which I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex. (4788)
    #7. Can you think of any instances in which you have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex, simply because of your (or their) gender? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    7. As a gay male, I feel as if women value and trust my opinion more than they would value the opinion of other females and certainly other straight males. I do feel that women also tend to lean more on their male friends regardless of their sexual orientation beacuse it allows them to connect with someone they are not directly competing with, as it seems that such competition is one of the larger factors in female stress and needing to communicate with other males. This manifests in situations were women detail an interaction they had with someone, likely a competitor, and seek advice or assurance that thier viewpoint is correct or simply in situaltions regardling their appearance where they need a trusted opinion to feel assured. (9698)
    #7. My friend who was a girl came to me with her emotional issues because she felt I was to be more trusted than her girl friends due to “guys being less dramatic.” We would meet up and talk through what was going on her life and I really appreciated her trust in me. It made me feel good to know that she felt comfortable enough around me to open up so much to me. (8674).
    7. One of my best friends here, who happens to be a girl, always comes to me with her problems and just to talk because she appreciates how guys tell things straight forward and don’t tend to edge around the bush when talking about issues. Due to this trust, it has only made our friendship closer and stronger. (0242)
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    Question 7. Females make extremely good companions and friends. All throughout my life I have gravitated towards females because they tend to be more open-minded and accepting. Some of my first friends from elementary have been girls, and they were the first to include me in their activities without judgment. (4788)
    #8. Describe an instance, or instances, when you have been rejected by someone of the opposite sex to whom you were attracted. How did they reject you? Was their behavior inconsiderate, rude or insensitive? How did it make you feel? How might they have done it in a more considerate way?
    8. Junior year of high school I was really interested in one of my best friends. She was awesome and we had a really good friendship, but we never had anything romantic. I had a mutual friend gauge her interest because I was too afraid of messing things up by asking myself. She was not interested, and after a while I got over it. Fast forward to senior year. I really just wanted to take her to our Senior Ball as friends because I thought we’d have a really good time. As it turned out, one of our other friends had the same idea, but, of course, she had someone entirely different in mind that she wanted to ask her. A good number of our crowd watched this entire situation unfold, so someone tipped her off at the start of school the day we were all planning on asking her. She literally went home “sick” in the middle of the morning to avoid all of us and had mutual friends of ours asking us not to ask her. This baffled me. Like why couldn’t she just tell me directly that she appreciated the gesture but would prefer that I leave her open for someone she was legitimately interested in to ask her? The entire class basically found out, which was uncomfortable, and I was hurt by how she overreacted and didn’t have the decency to just talk to me directly. As it turned out, the guy she wanted to ask her, didn’t even ask her because he was so appalled by the situation. He even asked her best friend directly in front of her the next day. (9698)
    8. I have been rejected by the opposite sex before. There was a girl I really liked in high school and I thought she would genuinely talk back to me when I spoke to her but I later came to find out it was all a joke. She could have just been straight with me and said that she was not interested instead of leading me on. It made me feel incredibly used and not worthy of being loved by anybody but it really seemed like she did not care about that. I wish she just would have been honest with me. (8674)
    8. There was one time where I was talking to this girl for a while and I thought everything was going well. I finally decided to ask her out. She ended up rejecting me in front of all my friends and hers without any signs of sympathy. She told me she was just having fun and didn’t want anything out of it. I was hurt for a little bit, but I just wish she was honest from the beginning and could have told me in private instead of in front of all our friends. (0242)
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    9)If I was completely sober I would have to be completely sure that she wanted to take things further. I would most likely want to hear from one of her friends that she was very interested in me. If not that then it would have to be an extremely obvious signal that she wanted to kiss me. If I had had a few drinks however, and had lots of “liquid confidence” as they say, I would make eye contact with her and slowly go in for the kiss. At that point, I would just see where it went from there. (1761)
    #9. I would simply act out my intentions and would initiate whatever it is that I want to do and see if she reinforces it or not. If the situation does not seem right to initiate any physical intimacy I would openly ask her if her desires are similar to mine. (5966)
    9. Waiting until I felt the time was right, I would start by upping the level, length of time, and intimacy of eye contact and attempt to gauge the acceptance, response, and reciprocation of this eye contact. If they are responding positively to this behavior, I would do the same in respect to physical touch, again gauging their body feedback. If all is well, I would then initiate the look. You know this look. At this critical juncture, they or their body will say yes or no. If yes, then I would kiss them and go from there all while maintaining proper communication and consent. (9698)
    9. Since we had already been on a few dates, I definitely think it is acceptable to just attempt to kiss her. I would kiss her, and if she kissed me back, I might invite her to come over to my place. If she says yes, then we will go there. Let’s assume I want to have sex with her, I would kiss her again and keep kissing her if she responds. I might try to take off her clothes a little later as well. Every advance I make though I would want to be sure that she is into it, so if she has the slightest bit of hesitation I would back off. (3297)
    9. I usually start with eye contact, smiling, joking and laughing to try be as comfortable as possible. If it's going well then you usually just keep getting closer and closer and it happens naturally. If that isn't the case, I usually then try to play them in a game of some sort and we each wager something for the winner. I’ll say if I win you have to give me a kiss or something cheesey and then all i have to do is make sure I win at whatever we playing. (5768)
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    Question 9. I would just be forthcoming about my intentions (4788).
    #10. Situation 2: The date has been going well, but you do not feel particularly physically attracted by this person. However, you can tell that this person is really turned on by you. Still, you know you're not interested in physical intimacy, and/or the subsequent involvement or commitment that might follow. How would you influence this person to avoid becoming sexual?
    10. I would create distance and use my body language to create barriers while lowering my level of eye contact. I would talk about something completely off the course they are wanting to take like wanting to go home or having a lot of work to do. If they did not pick up on the signals then I would have an open and honest conversation with them telling them in which ways I valued them as a person and in which ways I did not see our relationship heading, namely sex. I would never want to let them down hard. (9698)
    #10. This is a really tough situation because I would not want her to think less of herself. I think I would try to kindly tell her I am not interested in that kind of relationship just so that she knows the truth rather than leading her on. (8674)
    10. I would try to tell her kindly that I am not interested in her like that, but try to do it in a way that does not make her feel self-conscious or question her self-esteem. I would want to make sure that she does not feel like I am leading her on or that I might want something else from this relationship. (0242)
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    For each of the following sentence fragments, complete the sentence, and, if you wish, add a few more sentences to complete your thought. Do not include the sentence stem in your response--only your answer to it.
    #11. In general, it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become "insanely" jealous when...
    11. When their partner is speaking, or interacting, with a potential, or actual, mating competitor. (9698)
    #11. You spend time with another girl. Even if it is 100% platonic I feel like there
    is still some worry. (8674).
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    Question 11. … they compare themselves with others that they view as smarter, prettier, richer, etc. (4788)
    #12. When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex...
    12. Should make it clear firstly whether they have the desire to or not and secondly which party they would prefer to initiate the first move. (9698)
    12 They should make it clear from the beginning whether they want to or not. Also, they should let you know if they have any ground rules. (8674).
    12. Always expects us to initiate the first move. (0242)
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    Question 12. … tends to wait for males to make the first move. (4788)
    #13. The opposite sex seems clueless about...
    13. The thought process males undergo while courting and what men think about daily. (9698)
    13. That guys have emotions too and many of us are sensitive t the things they say. (8674).
    13. That guys can also be nervous in different situations and may not always be more confident than they are. (0242)
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    Question 13. … sports. (4788)
    #14. Being romantic is something that the opposite sex...
    14. Cares very deeply about, likely to be reassured of the time and effort the other is willing to invest in a future with them. (9698)
    14. Holds very dear as they should when they are in a relationship with someone (8674).
    14. Values and expects the guy to make happen in the relationship. (0242)
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    Question 14. … enjoys. (4788)
    #15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by...
    15. Subjecting them to questioning on values-based topics, priorities, hypothetical situations, and short-term/long-term plans. Additionally, there will likely be tests involving faithfulness and honesty in the relationship. (9698)
    15. Trying to test how much they care for them by how much they actually do for them, not just the words they say. They may check your phone too and see who you are talking to and what you are talking about. (8674).
    15. Asking certain questions and creating space to see if we will make an effort to reach out to see if we are invested in the relationship. (0242)
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    Questions 15. … asking them questions about things they think they should know. (4788)
    #16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to...
    16. Social norms of courtship and the personal, temporal and financial investment involved. (9698)
    16. Holding each other accountable. I will often times see guys get butchered for saying something superficial about a girl but when a girl does it to a guy it is completely fine. (8674).
    16. Making the first move. (0242)
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    Question 16. … offering to pay on behalf of their partner. (4788)
    #17. Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex...
    17. Enjoys to a certain extent. Possessiveness in the agreement of a productive, respectful mutually exclusive relationship in which both partners are and feel independent and supported by the relationship is healthy. However, possessiveness to the extent of smothering the other partner to the point of their losing their sense of independence or freedom is not healthy or desired. No one wants to feel owned or controlled by another person. (9698)
    17. I feel like they do not want to feel possessed by their partner. They want to
    still be their own person. While it is important to feel safe in a relationship
    ...
    Question 17. … thinks is sexy, but then realize is crazy! (4788)
    #18. When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex...
    18. Expends a great deal of time and effort to make themselves to be more attractive to attract higher quality and quantity of potential mates. (9698)
    18. Physical attractiveness is important to them as well. If you are not physically attracted to the other person in some way it makes a serious relationship much more difficult. (8674).
    18)only cares about this initially. Lots of girls these days want a good-looking boyfriend to take pictures with and post on Instagram to make other girls jealous. (1761)
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    Question 18. … worries too much about when it comes to themselves. (4788)
    #19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex...
    19. Have adapted to value greatly in a potential partner subconsciously to ensure higher chances of reproductive success. (9698)
    19. For the most part does not care too much for but I think they are more attracted to someone with goals and ambitions when talking about a long term relationship. (8674).
    19. May consider in a partner but does not determine if they will date them. (0242)
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    Question 19. … cares about just as much as males. (4788)
    #20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex...
    20. Makes inaccurate assumptions about me or my “worth” based on my physical appearance and/or sex. (9698)
    20. Makes assumptions about my goals and hobbies based on my gender. (8674).
    20. Are self-critical about themselves due to another girl’s comment or by comparing themselves to someone else. (0242)
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    Question 20. … excludes me. (4788)
    #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when...
    21. I can engage in a supportive relationship/friendship in which we both feel valued, respected, and able to speak freely and openly. (9698)
    21. I can be open and honest with them about my thoughts and feelings. (8674)
    21. I can have a good relationship with them and be myself and not placed in the male stereotypes that society has constructed. (0242)
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    3. I think what men misunderstand the most about women would be our feelings in general. I think guys have a hard time understanding what we are feeling 90% of the time which is why there tends to be such a large communication issue a lot of the time.(5649)
    I feel as though men, as a stereotype, sometimes view women as more emotional or weaker than they are. In the sense that they are incapable of separating their emotions from certain situations. I have also heard that men think women love to gossip and thrive off of drama. It is strange because as a girl I would agree that I do enjoy talking about others, however, I do not necessarily always speak of them poorly. Since women do much more enjoy communicating with each other, they form a bond through their similar interests. Also, I would like to add that drama is in fact entertaining to listen to at times, but personally I do not enjoy starting drama or being involved in drama. Men also do not understand that women want honesty. I would much rather a guy tell me that he is not interested in my right off the bat as opposed to dragging me on for a few months before doing so. This way there are not as many feelings involved and both parties can feel slightly more relieved. (2775)
    1) The opposite sex which are men most misunderstands a girls train of thought. Boys don’t understand when a girl is really upset because girls usually say nothing but it’s the tone that gives it away. Boys need to stop and think about a girls feelings first before they assume it is all okay. Boys do not make the effort to try and figure out what is going on in the girls mind, instead they act clueless and act like they don’t understand what they did wrong. Men think that woman are dramatic. Woman express their feelings and men don’t see it or understand it and believe them expressing their emotions is an act of drama and being crazy.
    #4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, et
    The first thing that attracts me about a guy is his physical appearance but it is his personality and charisma that gets me to develop feelings for him. Beyond his looks, I like a guy who is easy to talk to. I tend to be a very shy person so when I meet a guy that gets me talking and make me feel comfortable, I get attached emotionally. I’m usually attracted to men who is funny and and intellectually smart that challenges my opinions and presents me to new ideas. I like men with ambition and confidence without being too arrogant or cocky about themselves. Overall, a friendly and outgoing personality is what makes them extremely likeable.
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    1. A few times in high school a guy that my friends hung out with at football games come up to me and start a conversation. The first time he came up to me it was to tell me that I should know he did not have a crush on one of the other girls in the group. I told him I didn’t think he had a crush on her and wasn’t really concerned. He then went on to tell me that he was much better than her anyway showing me with hand gestured scale that he was “up here” and she was “down here.” This offended me and I walked away. Later he came up to me again and flat-out asked me if I had low self-esteem. Perplexed, I asked, "why are you asking me this" and he said that I should not have agreed to go to the formal dance with another guy, his friend, who he deemed “below me.” We ended up having a really awkward double date before the dance. In hindsight, I think he was attracted to me and was trying to impress me with his confidence. I think that he thought he could win my favor by telling me that he was better than my friend and that his friend was not good enough for me. (0632)
    1. One of the most puzzling situations I’ve encountered with the opposite sex happened just recently this year. I come from a family where the men tend to be very close minded and masochistic. One day, when I was working on a research paper, my uncle came home complaining about how hungry he was. He went to the kitchen and seeing that there was no food prepared, he yelled at me saying that it was my obligation as a woman to care for the men because they had been working out in the sun all day. We quickly got into an argument that really didn't get anywhere because of his stubborn belief that women should be nurturing and “stay at home wives.” What really upset me more about this situation is that my uncle is not the only male that I’ve encountered that thinks women are like prized possessions that just clean and cook for them.
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    emotions. 5609
    I find it puzzling how males have a stereotype of not being loyal to women and how they are considered “cool” among their friends to have a side chick. It makes me wonder how they would handle the situation if their father was acting this way with their mother or if they had a sister and her boyfriend was acting this way. Why is it okay or “cool” when they do it or encourage their friends but not when it is their family? I feel like this situation occurs more with males than the females and has to do with emotions. Particularly, coming off as less masculine by showing that they care, especially about a female. It’s almost as if it’s okay to show more emotions when it comes to sports than with a significant other. 0226

    Responses from the Fall, 2016 class:
    1. I’m not sure if this counts as an interaction, but in middle school, we rotated classrooms and desks kind of like high schools do and I shared my desk with a group of 7th grader boys, and I would always find these drawings (and once even paper cutouts) of dicks. Just so many different doodles of dicks, how their dicks were bigger than their friends’ dicks, their friends sucking on their hairy phallus, just endless dicks in my desk. It was that sort of jokingly “homo-no-homo” sort of thing? Why boys are so fascinated by their own dicks and why they feel the need to engage in heterosexual yet honestly homoerotic interactions completely baffles me. (0496)
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    2. What I like the most about the opposite sex would be their confidence/willingness to protect women and put others first. I also tend to like their humor and easy-goingness. What I dislike about the opposite gender would be their lack of empathy (although it is usually not intentional). I also dislike how aggressive and loud they can be.(5649)
    2. Generally what I find most appealing about the opposite sex is humor, their strength, protectiveness, and their nonchalant nature. The strength most men have is not only physically appealing but also very useful for heavy-lifting and their height is useful for when someone like me cannot reach a top shelf. Protectiveness goes hand in hand with masculinity. Men show their masculinity by being concerned for their significant other’s safety and well-being. However, there is a fine line between being protective and being possessive. This is not a trait distinct to men, there are many women that are considered crazy or jealous because they are constantly concerned as to where their significant other is. What I mean by nonchalant nature is that men are very relaxed and flexible with their time. They do not desire drama of any sorts and they are very accommodating. I dislike that that men are clueless of the hints women sometimes drop. I do not necessarily mean that every guy should be able to read the minds of women, however, I definitely feel that they could be a bit more observant and considerate of women’s emotions. This leads into their “closed-off” behavior towards their partners. Men view portraying their emotions as a sign of weakness, when they should view it as a way to connect with their partner on a deeper level. (2775)
    When I think about the opposite sex, one thing I feel isI like that the friendship is more real. Males tendopposite sex seems to say things to your face more often than nottrigger so many emotions for each other. Whether that be because of feelings, conversations, words, interactions — there are always so many follow up reactions about encounters that go on between a male and even though it may sting at first,female. Although a lot comes along with those feelings, good and bad, it’s what people needstimulating to hear.even have interactions like that which I also tend to feelthink are far more different than same sex interactions. I also like the instant feeling of protection whenthat I am with a male. If I were to walk down an alley in a bad neighborhood at night, I would feel more protectionaround men.
    I dislike the way that their hyper masculinity can get in the way of truly connecting
    with just mewomen and another male than me and two other females. It doesn’t make much sense especially since there are more people in the female group, but I would still havepride that confidence withthey have to put aside to empathize and understand the male. 0226way the women naturally want to nurture and care for a male that they care about.
    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
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    left unsaid.
    I find it frustrating when males think that females can’t handle certain things or situations. For example, certain conversations are “for the boys” and if there are girls around they will save it for later. 0226

    3) I think that guys misunderstands the fact that girls are sensitive and emotional. Girls being sensitive and emotional is part of who they are because I believe it is better to show your emotions rather than keeping it inside because it can be hard in a relationship if one person does not understand what you want. Also, girls are born with different hormones and those hormones tend to make girls more emotional the way they are. (9745
    3. They think that women are overly emotional when it is usually just because they are not in touch with their emotions and are not able to express them. If you ever bring up something that they did which upset you they get extremely defensive and blow it off saying that you are too emotional and that you are over reacting about the situation. (7497)
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    I feel as though men, as a stereotype, sometimes view women as more emotional or weaker than they are. In the sense that they are incapable of separating their emotions from certain situations. I have also heard that men think women love to gossip and thrive off of drama. It is strange because as a girl I would agree that I do enjoy talking about others, however, I do not necessarily always speak of them poorly. Since women do much more enjoy communicating with each other, they form a bond through their similar interests. Also, I would like to add that drama is in fact entertaining to listen to at times, but personally I do not enjoy starting drama or being involved in drama. Men also do not understand that women want honesty. I would much rather a guy tell me that he is not interested in my right off the bat as opposed to dragging me on for a few months before doing so. This way there are not as many feelings involved and both parties can feel slightly more relieved. (2775)
    #4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, et
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    extremely likeable.
    I think a big thing that attracts me to the opposite sex is their sense of humor. Initially I think physical attraction is important but the personality makes or breaks the attraction. Self-confidence in a male is important especially if the female is confident, but to a certain extent. It’s exhausting for both the male and female to constantly be complementing their significant other or reassuring them. 0226

    4. I have had three serious boyfriends and each time it was something different that made me attracted to them. Most recently it was because he is a hard worker and has drive and motivation. He is also very caring and loves life. He cares about his friends and family and most importantly is a gentleman. He takes an interest in my life and makes an effort with my friends and family. (7497)
    4 . The last man I found attractive was extremely funny. He was a bit quiet, but when he did talk he would make people laugh so much they’d almost cry. He would also joke with me and that made me feel special. (0224)
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    Strengths: Their systemizing and mechanistic skills. Their physical strength to handle heavy material. They are quicker at making decisions and don’t tend to hold grudges therefore are more forgiving.
    Weakness: Not so good at communication and expressing their feelings.
    The strengths of males would be their physical features-definitely not a weakness. With their physical features comes help with tasks like moving or handling heavy objects. I think when a male does care sincerely about something or someone it is interesting to see how they handle it, especially if they can show that with their friends. Men also have a few weaknesses. These include thinking it is okay to use their strength to control women. Also, not being able to emotionally understand females. They do not necessarily have to agree or act the same way as females but just to be able to understand them is more than enough. 0226
    5. Men’s weakness is that they do not know how to order food! They struggle with properly communicating what they want and then become upset when their order is wrong. However, their strength is they do not hold grudges. Although a friend can say or do something offensive, men tend to shrug it off and become buddies like nothing happened. (0224
    5. Men tend to be less self-critical and I think that is a strength. They are not in touch with their emotions which I think is a weakness and they are not good a communication. (7497)
    5) I believe that guy's strengths are being straightforward, driven, and move on from an emotional situation easily. Guys have the tenacity to just say how they feel, and I think that is great because it creates a better relationship with the girl. Weaknesses that guys have are that they are not empathetic and do not pay attentions. They do not take other’s opinions seriously, and I find that not a good thing because it can hurt many people’s feelings.(9745)
    5. Some strengths are that men are stereotypically actually physically strong. They also know how to take charge and lead a group. However, when they lead a group, they have to do it their way because they know best, and don’t really like to listen to comments or critique. Think of the stereotypical “we’re lost and need to ask for directions” scenario. And again, men aren’t in touch with their or others’ emotions. (0496)
    5. I think that strengths in males is they aren’t afraid to say how they feel or do whatever they desire to do, without worrying too much about if it hurts someone’s feelings or not. I think they’re weakness bounces right off of that in the sense that when they do hurt someone’s feelings, they don’t know how to apologize in the sincerest way because they tend to not understand why their honest actions result in an unintentional offense. (8701)
    5. Strengths: protecting, strong, drivenWeaknesses: emotional understanding and availability/maturity, ego (1569)
    5. In my opinion, men’s strengths are being straightforward, protective, and able to simplify things. Their weaknesses appear to be difficulty reading emotions and difficulty expressing their own emotions. (8778) 5. I think some of the biggest strengths of the opposite sex are the ability to move past little problems or inconveniences quickly and their ability to admit their anger or frustration. Often times when girls are angry with each other they tend to be passive aggressive towards one another or they just don’t speak to each other and hold onto a grudge. Men on the other hand tend to air their problems out in the open without filtering out their feelings. Their ability to be honest about their anger probably allows them to move past those small bumps in the road faster than girls. A weakness I think they have is that they aren’t as willing as girls to admit their sadness or confusion. I think this might stem from their need to maintain a hyper masculine façade that looks down upon showing weakness or “admitting defeat.” 1524
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    6. I cannot think of a time where I have been personally treated unfairly. (7497)
    6. An instance where I felt extremely mistreated was when someone from the opposite sex told me my job and sole responsibility was to do everything for my boyfriend. This particular person told me I need to maintain the house clean, cook for my boyfriend, iron his clothes and make sure anything he needs I provide. (0224)
    #6. I have been treated unfairly by the opposite sex in ways that showed a presumed assumption of my physical and mental capabilities just because I am female. There’s been times at the gym when I feel extremely judged when I’m picking up heavier weights and a male stops me and asks me if I meant to grab that specific weight. Or in group projects, every time it’s been a creative project and I’m the only girl in the group, I automatically feel pressure to do majority of the work for the sake of my grade and for the instant tendencies that males have to give that responsibility to women. (8701).
    6) An instance when I felt I was mistreated by the opposite sex was when I was expected to wash the dishes. I was once told that since I was a girl, I am suppose to be washing the dishes and doing the chores throughout the house. I find that not necessary because it teaches guys to be lazy. I did not agree on this task of just girls washing dishes because guys can also wash dishes even if it's not the norm. (9745)
    6. The last time I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex was when I was inappropriately touched on the bus. (0496)
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    6. I dated a boy for 5 years and at the very end he cheated on me with my best friend and the girl who outwardly disliked me. After I found out he ignored all my attempts to understand went wrong and after 5 months of me feeling like it was all my fault he finally decided to talk to me and then proceeded to try and get back together. He thought that because we were both going through a difficult time that he had the go-ahead to act out and do what he wanted because he wasn’t in control. (3584)
    6. It has happened often where the guys in the group make the final decision of what to do or where to go. I feel like they think that their opinion matters more than female opinions. Regardless of how wrong they are, they won’t admit to being at fault because they are too stubborn to even admit it to themselves. (4259)
    The last time I was mistreated by the opposite sex was when a male peer tried to take advantage of me. I needed to borrow his charger because I was separated from my friends after a party and he thought that I could repay him in ways I did not agree to and thankfully I got out of that situation. 0226
    6. One instance I can remember was in high school in my Chemistry class I worked with my male friend who sometimes tutored me after school and helped me with concepts I was struggling with. I remember at the end of the year thanking him for his help and asking him if he was planning on signing up for AP Chem. I told him how I wished I had as much ease understanding the material and he responded “Well don’t worry you’re a girl you’re not supposed to understand all of this”, and while I know he wasn’t intentionally trying to make such an offensive statement, it goes to show that these boys are learning this kind of behavior at a young age. To our detriment, they may be carrying on these beliefs for the rest of their lives. (8090)
    6. A time I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex was when my ex-boyfriend told me that I “couldn’t talk to any guys” after we broke up but the same rule did not apply to him. He would talk to any girl he wanted to which is a total double standard.(5649)
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    7. Yes, I believe that women are given preferential treatment especially in night social-settings. Women are let into parties and bars much more frequently that men, and once inside they are given preferential treatment often by being bought drinks, etc. (1569)
    7. It is hard to think of an instance when I have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex because of my gender as a woman. A possible example could be when I visit my grandparents and my grandpa puts my brother to work doing labor in his backyard and allows me to relax. However, while this was nice, this could be taken as my grandpa not believing I am as capable as my brother. (8778)
    #7. The instances that I’ve experienced good treatment by the opposite sex has been by my best friend. I’ve had a tendency of becoming close with males quiet easily, obviously situationally depending on who the person or how much we get along with them. This has helped me realize that there is a very optimal opportunity to become close with a male and feel protected, loved and cherished. I haven’t felt that in a relationship yet and have yet to feel like I’ve been treated properly in that situation. (8701).
    7.I’ve definitely gotten glimpses of special treatment for being a girl before, but I’ve never experienced a large special act. I have had guys pay for my meal on dates even if I insist on paying half, but that’s as special as it’s gotten. 1524
    7. I have been treated well by the opposite sex recently. The guy I am currently seeing made me an amazing dinner and killer margaritas. He complimented me all night. It was nice to feel appreciated and wanted. I feel like men can be providers and caretakers and this was an example of that. (6955)
    7. There are instances where people of the opposite sex have helped me carry things, especially with lifting heavy objects. This works perfectly for me because I do not have as much upper body strength as I want, which can be a problem. (0974)
    7. Whenever I go out to bars or to clubs in Las Vegas, it always helps to be a female because you can get into places for free while guys have to wait in line or pay a fee. 8870
    The last time a male treated me well because of my gender was when we were walking out of a club at 4 am to get food and some guy was trying to get my phone from my pocket and my male friend started yelling at him and making sure that I was okay. 0226
    7. I was recently on a flight where I was sitting in the middle on two men. The man on my left side was an old grumpy man and the man on my right side was a fairly attractive man in his 40s. When I sat down in my seat the man on my right, lets call him Tom, preceded to ask me about myself and acted very sweet to me. I figured that he was just a charming and nice person, as he proceeded to offer me opportunities to get free things from the business he was running. He also switched seats with me so I would have the aisle seat and wouldn’t have to sit in the middle seat, which everyone hates. I saw this as him being a kind person, because he had 3 children, who weren’t present, and saw me as a child myself because I am only 19. He then started flirting with me very strongly by referencing the mile high club, to which I was shocked and preceded to play dumb on what that meant. He then smiled and started explaining it to me to which I mentioned that he had a wife at home. At the end of the flight because I was going to miss my connecting flight he made an announcement on the whole plane that I have a connecting flight and cleared the way for me to make it in time. I do not believe that he would have helped me off the flight or offered me free things if I wasn’t a female. (1481)
    7. Being a woman has a few perks. Some men, not all, still believe in chivalry. It's the small things that make a big difference in my opinion. Holding doors open, paying for dinner and other things like that. I don't have one particular instance when I was treated extra nicely but just small acts of kindness help. (8003)
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    8. I was rejected by a guy who initially showed a lot of interest in me, but stopped as soon as I seemed interested as well. He rejected me by completely cutting me off, such as not replying to my texts and being very short if we ran into each other in person. His behavior was rude and insensitive, especially considering we had been friends before. It made me very disappointed in our friendship and could have been handled better with clear communication. (8778)
    8.He rejected me over text message and his behavior was quite considerate for how awful of a person he is. It made me feel upset, but also relieved that I finally had an answer of if he liked me or not. 1524
    #8. I’ve been rejected in instances that where I had high hopes for something, but not in a sense that I’ve approached someone and they’ve rejected me in a way that has to do with a conversation where I put myself out there to ask them out. It was a rejection that I asked what we were, and my head was in a complete different place than he was that led to me feeling like I put myself out there and got rejected for doing so. It wasn’t rude, but it was definitely inconsiderate in a way that I felt as though he should have told me before I felt the need to establish that thin line. It made me feel as though I shouldn’t invest time into relationships unless I know there is complete reciprocation. I think a more considerate way would be for him to be more in tune with the way that I was communicating with him and understanding that my feelings were going in the opposite direction as him, but at the same time I can’t expect the opposite sex to understand what I’m feeling from observation. (8701).
    8. I was recently rejected by my ex boyfriend. He decided he no longer wanted to be with me. I think their behavior was rude, insensitive, and inconsiderate because it was done online. It made me feel disrespected, ugly and worthless. He could have been more considerate by doing it to my face in person instead of leading me on and then ignoring me for months. (6955)
    8. I have not been rejected by someone by the opposite sex because I have never told someone of the opposite sex that I was attracted to them because of my low self esteem at the time. However, I have friends that have been rejected by the opposite sex, and they have had varying experiences. Most of my friends have been let down lightly, being told that they would want to stay friends and that they do not feel the same way. (0974)
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    8. In third grade there was this popular boy every girl in the grade had a crush on including me. Girls started going up to him telling him they liked him and he would smile and act nice towards them. So I thought if it worked for them it must work for me. Well I was absolutely wrong because when I went up to him and I said I liked him under my breath he straight up started laughing wildly and ran up to his friends saying that I liked him. That was a low day in elementary school for me, I definitely felt insecure after that. If he just left off the laughing part or running his to friends or really any of that sweet moment. (5945)
    8. My freshman year of high school, a guy I really liked was sitting with me at a football game. He had told me how much he liked me and was holding my hand. Homecoming was coming up in about two weeks, and I was hoping he was going to ask me to be his date. I guess he sort of did, but it went a little more something like this, “So…Homecoming is coming up. I’m planning on asking this girl Jordan, but if she says no, would you want to go with me?” It was the biggest slap in the face I have ever experienced from a guy (thank goodness for that). Completely setting me aside as a backup choice was inconsiderate, rude, and insensitive. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough to be his date, and if anything he would have to settle for me. (8635)
    When I think of the times I have been rejected they aren’t necessarily bad because I know that I have done the same. It is when they do not text back and just leave you hanging. It’s better to just be straight up with someone instead of leading them on. Yes, it hurts but it might be easier to get over. 0226
    8. I remember one night I went out and me and this boy were flirting and it was fun and harmless and I was having a good time. An hour passes and we haven’t had the chance to really talk so I go up to chat a little more and at this point he turns to me and says, “no … sorry, but like your blond friend…” and I laugh to myself and I was just like woah. My feelings weren’t hurt because he decided he was more attracted to my friend than me, I was just taken aback that this guy felt so empowered and confident to dismiss another person like that instead of just having a friendly conversation and saying, “hey I think I would like to get to know your friend more” instead of just moving me to the side. (3584).
    8) I don’t remember ever being rejected but I remember instances of rejecting others. This one time I was walking around a park with my family and a fairly good looking guy came up to me and tried to talk to me. He kept telling me how I was the most beautiful girl that he had ever met and really wanted my number. I told him I had a boyfriend and awkwardly tried walking away. I felt bad but I really wanted to get out of there. (4259)
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    9. I would probably hold his hand or give him a kiss on the cheek at some point throughout the date to signal that I was interested physically to ensure that that was a clear aspect of the relationship and that we were on the same page. later I would suggest that we go back to one of our places and see how he responds, and then probably talk to him about how I felt about him as an explanation for me desire or trust to be intimate for him (1569)
    9. I would probably try to make basic physical contact with him, such as putting my hand on his knee or holding his hand. After that I would wait for some sort of response and let him initiate any further contact. If he did initiate further contact and it became more intimate, I would later verbally express what type of physical affection I was ok with at this point. (8778)
    If the date has been going very well I would try to give subtle hints. I am not one to talk about feelings so I don’t think I would bring it up. I would definitely wait until he said something. Also, it is scary to be the first one to bring it up when you aren’t sure if the person feels the same way. 0226
    9.I would probably initiate some type of casual contact, like brushing his arm or touching his hand. I might even initiate holding hands. I probably wouldn’t initiate a kiss or anything further than that though. If I was comfortable enough with the person I would probably even ask why we hadn’t kissed yet. 1524
    #9. When I feel sexual tension, I hint in gestures that I brush up against him, get closer, twiddle my fingers by his hands if we ever get close or seem to approach a “moment”. I wouldn’t want to put myself far out there just in case I’m reading the signs wrong, but I think sometimes the opposite sex needs a bigger sign that we’re interested than we think. (8701).
    9. If the date was going well and I was physically attracted to the person I was with, I would try to look for cues to how he was feeling. If I felt we were on the same page I would just go for it. I would flirt and probably move closer to that person to the point where I could eventually lock eyes with them and go in for a kiss! If I was unsure, I would drop low-key hints that I was attracted to him and see how he reacted to that. (6955)
    If I wanted to be physically intimate with someone, I would ask them if it was okay. I would not want to pressure them into being intimate with me if they are not comfortable, and I want it to be consensual. I would also start off with hand holding, and then occasionally progress towards being more intimate. I do not mind if it takes more time, and if the situation arises where the feeling is not mutual, I would rather that we had taken it slow. (0974)
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    10. I would make it clear that I wanted to remain in public places to avoid any further intimacy (such as not wanted to go back to either of our places, or somewhere where I knew that we would be alone together) and then just try to be clear and emphasize my enjoyment in spending time with him and talking to him such that there is an emphasis away from the physical aspects of our relationship. (1569)
    10. I would not initiate any physical contact and shy away a bit when he did. If he initiated going back to a private place where there would be an opportunity for us to be more intimate, I would verbally voice that I was not interested in this type of relationship, but let him know that I enjoy hanging out as friends. (8778)
    If I wasn’t interested in this person from the beginning there would not be a second date, or that awkward interaction of trying to avoid becoming sexual. 0226
    10.I would start using the term “friend” a lot more often in reference to the boy. I probably would also pull away from any physical contact that way he doesn’t get the wrong idea. 1524
    10. I am really bad at saying no. When I have been in a situation where someone is interested in me and I am not interested in them, I tend to make up an excuse to leave and usually avoid them and their texts in the future. This I realize is a little hypocritical of me considering when guys have done this to me, my world is over for a week. (6955)
    10. I would make it very clear verbally that I am not interested sexually. I do not want to rely on nonverbals because I have friends who are of the opposite sex who have told me that they do not understand nonverbals. I do not want to risk any possibility of miscommunication. (0974)
    10. If I do not want someone to execute any sexual activities upon me, I would start talking about my ex boyfriend or start talking about someone I am currently interested in. If I really have to, I would lie and talk about how I am not ready to be with anyone or have a desire to pursue any form of relationship. 8870
    #10. I would try to ease on the flirting and make most conversations very friend-like. If he were to make physical gestures, I’d either make a facial expression or response that is very apparent that I’m not interested in physical intimacy. I would hope to eventually rack up the nerve to tell him to not get physical with me if it crosses a certain line and he isn’t getting my other clues. (8701)
    10. If I were on a date with a man who I was not interested in, I would avoid all psychical contact. I wouldn’t hold his hand or touch his leg, even if I was talking to him in a platonic way. I wouldn’t want physical touch to be interpreted by him as him having a chance with me. I would also change the tone of my voice to that of uninterested and not a flirtatious tone. If we were sitting next to each other I would be positioned in a way that I was facing forward instead of turning my body towards him. While I am not facing him I would be looking around at other guys, and making it noticeable that I am checking them out instead of paying attention to him. (1481)
    10. I would first do the head turn/ cheek move if he tried to go in for a kiss that I didn't feel comfortable with. If that doesn't work, I would tell him that I'm not comfortable with any sort of physical intimacy and say that I hope he respects my decision. I wouldn't do anything I was uncomfortable/ not ready for. (8003)
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    11. ... he see's another man flirting with his girl (1569)
    …he watches you pay more attention to another guy than to him. (8778)
    #11. …you talk to them about other guys’ physiques/personality traits that you like or they see you becoming close friends with another male. (8701)
    11.they see someone else near something they presume is their “property” or “territory” 1524
    11. Other guys flirt with me in front of them. (6955)
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    11) you talk to someone else that is potentially someone that likes you/someone you could be interested in (8635)
    11) I hang out with my guy friends for about the same or more amount of time I spend with them. (3584).
    In general, it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become “insanely” jealous when they seen their significant other texting the opposite sex. 0226
    11) The opposite sex talks to me or if I hang out with guys. (4259)
    11. other guys stare at you or compliment you (8090)
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    12. is straight forward and aggressive about their intentions. (5945)
    12. gets pretty serious pretty quick. (8635)
    #12. …takes most hints the wrong way or gets too excited the second you guys kiss. (8701)
    12. Will make the first move and be more upfront and bold about initiating sex (3584).
    12. Is more likely to try to initiate the first move.(4259)
    12. always makes the first move and tend to get noticeably nervous before doing so, giving us a hint when something is about to happen. (5649)
    When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex usually initiates it. 0226
    #13. The opposite sex seems clueless about...
    13. the female anatomy and her sex drive (0224)
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    13. how much effort girls put into their appearance (8090)
    13. Emotions and feelings. (6955)
    #13. …the emotional aspects and the right way to satisfy girls (in the simplest ways). (8701)
    13. ... emotions. (0974)13. emotions. (7497)13. The female anatomy when it comes to sex. They have a different sex drive from women 8870
    The opposite sex seems clueless about everything. Especially when it comes to females. 0226
    13. Men are clueless about the amount of effort that women expect them to put into having a successful relationship. Most men do not continue to put in the effort as the relationship progresses, which is something we can especially see in marriages when men get too “comfortable” and the romance and excitement dies. (1481)
    13. ... how to effectively communicate with women. They aren't very good at explaining their emotions or connecting with others on an emotional level, which can make communication more difficult. (8003)
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    14. …should enjoy for both themselves and their partner. (8778)
    14. can be good at, but it is not common 1524
    #14. …is either completely clueless about or shocks any girl when they even remember to bring roses to a date or pay for dinner. (8701)
    14. Is bad at (6955)
    14. ... does not do as well as most women expect. (0974)
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    14. can be surprisingly great at (3584)
    14. Can actually be really good at. When a guy really likes you I feel like he goes out of his way to please you. (4259)
    Being romantic is something that the opposite sex does not usually do but when they do and they are serious about it it’s a huge turn on. 0226
    14. is not very good at unless they REALLY like the girl and are really trying to impress them. (5649)
    #15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by...
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    15. Inviting them to meet their family/friends
    #15....seeing how they react when another man is flirting with them. (1333)15. introducing her to his family. (6553)
    #15. …bringing them around their friends, seeing how they take dates into the matter of their own hands, how they are around a setting with multiple girls and how he shares his attention, and eventually bringing them around family. (8701)
    15. …introducing them to friends and family or inviting them to travel or go on vacation with their family. (8778)
    15. testing how calm and collected they can be in a variety of different situations 1524
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    15. By introducing you to their family. From my experience, family is very important and their opinions matter a lot. (4259)
    15. seeing if they care enough to be the first one to text/call them. (5649)
    Sometimes it seems that the opposite puts their girlfriend through a series of relationship “tests” by seeing their they are liked by their mom. 0226
    #16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to...
    16. sexuality! When women have multiple sex partners, they are considered whores or sluts, but men can sleep with as many people as they’d like. (0224)
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    Having a better job or being stronger.(9745)
    16. They just don't, stereotypically
    #16. …anything domestic, sports.(8701)
    16. career or job position. Men always want to make more money than women. (6553)
    16. Women not being good at cooking, cleaning, or taking care of children
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    16. anything domestic, such as cooking, cleaning, and taking care of children 1524
    16. Sports. (6955)
    The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to sports, when they have to cook, clean or quit their job to take care of the children. 0226
    16. ... threatening their own status, especially when it comes to their capabilities. (0974)16. Sports or drinking. Guys think that girls cannot drink as much as them (8870)
    16. Men support equality when it deals with women making the first move. It seems that men find it attractive when a woman can confidently ask a man out, and they claim that its not only the job of a guy to ask out the female.(1481)
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    17. …may have trouble controlling if there is not trust in the relationship. (8778)
    17. often turns into aggression 1524
    Possessiveness is something#17. …something that the opposite sex needs to work on. It is not attractivecomes naturally but can be unnecessarily exaggerated when they get controlling. 0226the person doesn’t feel secure or stable in the relationship. (8701)
    17. Needs to work on because it leads to jealousy
    17. Is a lot of. (6955)
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    18. is hit or miss 1524
    18. tends to judge a girl off of it. (7497)
    #18. …relies heavily on it and makes that the decision point on deciding to get to know the girl any further than her outside appearance. (8701)
    18. Can be very attractive (6955)
    18. ... puts women into different categories as to whether or not they'll pursue anything with them, and physical attractiveness is an important factor. (0974)
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    18. Look a lot better with an athletic physique. (4259)
    18. takes this into consideration before anything else when looking for a love interest. (5649)
    When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex only focus on that when searching for women. 0226
    #19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex...
    19. find highly important (0224)
    ...
    19. take for granted 1524
    19. Values and prioritizes
    #19. …tend to be important but people deny that it will make or break their decision on dating someone. (8701)
    19. Value (6955)
    19. ... should take into consideration when it comes to their perceived attractiveness. (0974)
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    19. Money and status are something that men in society appear to thrive for and use this as an advantage to get the attention of the attractive or high status female. It also allows them to have their pick of many females and to continue to meet new attractive females. (1481)
    19. ... cares a lot about. Men see their income and status as a symbol of their manhood. (8003)
    Money and status are things that the opposite sex tend to strive for so they can have the hottest wife possible. 0226
    19. prioritize. (7497)
    19) seems to be driven by. (5945)
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    20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex insults a woman because of her looks. I think that men don’t realize how hurtful it is when they say a snide remark about a woman’s appearance. In my experience, I have had my feelings hurt when a male friend insults another girl, even if I don’t know her. It makes me wonder what they think about me, even when the relationship is completely platonic. (0632)
    20. Offends and disrespects me
    #20. …tears apart the appearance of a woman or thinks that their body is something to use for sexual pleasure. (8701)
    20. ...fails to treat me with respect and to see me for the individual that I am, no matter the situation (1569)
    20. doesn't at least try and empathize with your feelings or act like they care that you are upset. (7497)20. is disrespectful and underestimates women (8090)
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    20. Puts me in a category as if because i am a woman i must be dumb or not as smart as them (3584).20. Cares so much about what a woman looks only on the outside. (4259)
    20. disregards my feelings by putting their own well-being before mine. (5649)
    It hurts me most when the opposite sex talk about women as if they are a prize or a piece of meat. It’s disgusting and completely disrespectful. 0226
    #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when...
    21. they appreciate and value me (0224)
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    21. they're understanding towards my feelings and show empathy. 1524
    21. They are giving me the attention I think I deserve. (6955)
    #21. …I make real intellectual connections and feel as though their best interest with me lies with my best interest in them. (8701)
    21. ... they take time to understand why equality is important and don't use it as an excuse to get attention. (0974)
    21. is confident and nice to me.8870
    ...
    21. When they are sensitive, respectful, romantic, protective, and vulnerable (8090)
    21. I feel like I am being respected/listened to. (5649)
    I feel best about the opposite sex when they show their feelings through actions and words. 0226
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    When it comes to men, I enjoy how straightforeward they are. If they have a problem with one another they will tell them to their face and ten minutes later they are back to being friends. They say what they think which is often refreshing and you can count on them to be honest about their thoughts. I dislike on the other hand how confrontational men seem to be. Its as though when angry they look for a fight which often leads to a physical confrontation. (9609)
    2. Generally what I find most appealing about the opposite sex is humor, their strength, protectiveness, and their nonchalant nature. The strength most men have is not only physically appealing but also very useful for heavy-lifting and their height is useful for when someone like me cannot reach a top shelf. Protectiveness goes hand in hand with masculinity. Men show their masculinity by being concerned for their significant other’s safety and well-being. However, there is a fine line between being protective and being possessive. This is not a trait distinct to men, there are many women that are considered crazy or jealous because they are constantly concerned as to where their significant other is. What I mean by nonchalant nature is that men are very relaxed and flexible with their time. They do not desire drama of any sorts and they are very accommodating. I dislike that that men are clueless of the hints women sometimes drop. I do not necessarily mean that every guy should be able to read the minds of women, however, I definitely feel that they could be a bit more observant and considerate of women’s emotions. This leads into their “closed-off” behavior towards their partners. Men view portraying their emotions as a sign of weakness, when they should view it as a way to connect with their partner on a deeper level. (2775)
    I like that the opposite sex seems to trigger so many emotions for each other. Whether that be because of feelings, conversations, words, interactions — there are always so many follow up reactions about encounters that go on between a male and female. Although a lot comes along with those feelings, good and bad, it’s stimulating to even have interactions like that which I think are far more different than same sex interactions. I also like the instant feeling of protection that I feel around men.
    I dislike the way that their hyper masculinity can get in the way of truly connecting with women and the pride that they have to put aside to empathize and understand the way the women naturally want to nurture and care for a male that they care about. (8701)

    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
    I think most men chalk women up to being extra emotional and irrational. But in reality, I think most women are very strong and logical. (7407)
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    Assuming that anger or other strong emotions are because we’re on our period is a big thing that men tend to misunderstand about women. Feeling passionately enough about something to vocalize it doesn’t necessarily mean that. Also, hormones don’t have full control over our emotions during that time; we don’t become completely different people, so what we say or feel must have some grounds somewhere within us. (9166)
    3. I would say women’s emotions. Men have a hard time understanding why we take the little things to heart, why we say we are fine when we are not and why we can hold grudges so long. These are all things that derive from our emotions and most of the time we get upset because men disregard to easily something that we find meaningful or important. (5369)
    I think that males overthink the sensitivity we carry with ourselves and fail to realize that sometimes these sensitivities are triggered by the actions of males. Getting reactions like, “why do girls even care when a guy does this?”, or “does she really think that that picture looks good?” are definitely things that trigger sensitive feelings amongst the opposite gender without even realizing that insecurities also stem from this. (8701)
    3. Ithink guys misunderstand the emotional needs of women the most. Because they do not have the same needs, it is very difficult for them to understand that women have so many. I think many women need a guy to constantly be there for them and guys don’t understand that need. (6991)
    3. I think men think that all women want a man to fix their problems, when in actuality women just want someone to talk to- someone to listen to them and tell them that everything will be okay. When I first started dating my boyfriend, I would call him and vent to him about a bad day I had and instead of listening to me vent, he would get irritated of me complaining and just say, “well what do you want me to do about it?” The answer is nothing. We don’t want or need men to fix our problems- we can handle it ourselves. But what we do want and need is someone to listen to our problems, show genuine concern, and then be there to support us and encourage us to keep going even when the going gets tough. (2307)
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    What most attracts me to men is if they are ambitious and motivated, which you can tell by the their job status, if they own a car, how the talk about their passions, etc. I also find a balanced confidence and good humor to be attractive. Lastly, I think it’s very attractive when men take pride in the way the look, like if they have good teeth, combed hair, a good outfit, etc. And then I obviously find other physical traits to be attractive such as being taller than me and things like that. (7407)
    4. I feel like straight off I’m attracted to a man’s physical appearance and self-confidence. If they approach me and talk to me with an air of confidence I will be more inclined to want to get to know them. After completing that first interaction I then start to look at personality and sense of humor. I want to see if I will be able to build a relationship with that person and make sure they don’t bore me.
    I’m extremely attracted to the way that a male interacts with my friends and family, shows genuine interest in my life and knows how to put their career and academics on the front-runner. Confidence is also attractive, but not when it becomes cocky and crosses the border or bragging and not making each experience genuine with the significant other. I also love manners and the idea of initiating the conversation, along with definitely taking looks into consideration, but almost to the point where personality makes up a lot of the looks. (8701)
    4.Some characteristics that I am attracted to in men are the physical. Such as, their facial structure, facial hair, hair in general, eyes, back and shoulders, arms, and hands. What is most important is their personality. Specifically I like a guy’s inner confidence (a confidence in which he knows he a great person but does not need to prove it), humility, care for others (children, family, friends), ambition, and open-mindedness. The top two personality traits I find most important are ambition and open-mindedness. Additionally, a gesture towards me that I enjoy is looking at me when we have a conversation.(4012)
    4. Humor is a big part of my personality, so I find it very attractive when a guy has a similar sense of humor or generally makes me smile. Along with that, I would say that guys who can carry a conversation and are approachable and easy to talk to attract me instantly.(2955)
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    1. A few times in high school a guy that my friends hung out with at football games come up to me and start a conversation. The first time he came up to me it was to tell me that I should know he did not have a crush on one of the other girls in the group. I told him I didn’t think he had a crush on her and wasn’t really concerned. He then went on to tell me that he was much better than her anyway showing me with hand gestured scale that he was “up here” and she was “down here.” This offended me and I walked away. Later he came up to me again and flat-out asked me if I had low self-esteem. Perplexed, I asked, "why are you asking me this" and he said that I should not have agreed to go to the formal dance with another guy, his friend, who he deemed “below me.” We ended up having a really awkward double date before the dance. In hindsight, I think he was attracted to me and was trying to impress me with his confidence. I think that he thought he could win my favor by telling me that he was better than my friend and that his friend was not good enough for me. (0632)
    1. One of the most puzzling situations I’ve encountered with the opposite sex happened just recently this year. I come from a family where the men tend to be very close minded and masochistic. One day, when I was working on a research paper, my uncle came home complaining about how hungry he was. He went to the kitchen and seeing that there was no food prepared, he yelled at me saying that it was my obligation as a woman to care for the men because they had been working out in the sun all day. We quickly got into an argument that really didn't get anywhere because of his stubborn belief that women should be nurturing and “stay at home wives.” What really upset me more about this situation is that my uncle is not the only male that I’ve encountered that thinks women are like prized possessions that just clean and cook for them.
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    emotions. 5609
    I find it puzzling how males have a stereotype of not being loyal to women and how they are considered “cool” among their friends to have a side chick. It makes me wonder how they would handle the situation if their father was acting this way with their mother or if they had a sister and her boyfriend was acting this way. Why is it okay or “cool” when they do it or encourage their friends but not when it is their family? I feel like this situation occurs more with males than the females and has to do with emotions. Particularly, coming off as less masculine by showing that they care, especially about a female. It’s almost as if it’s okay to show more emotions when it comes to sports than with a significant other. 0226

    Responses from the Fall, 2016 class:
    1. I’m not sure if this counts as an interaction, but in middle school, we rotated classrooms and desks kind of like high schools do and I shared my desk with a group of 7th grader boys, and I would always find these drawings (and once even paper cutouts) of dicks. Just so many different doodles of dicks, how their dicks were bigger than their friends’ dicks, their friends sucking on their hairy phallus, just endless dicks in my desk. It was that sort of jokingly “homo-no-homo” sort of thing? Why boys are so fascinated by their own dicks and why they feel the need to engage in heterosexual yet honestly homoerotic interactions completely baffles me. (0496)
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    2. What I like the most about the opposite sex would be their confidence/willingness to protect women and put others first. I also tend to like their humor and easy-goingness. What I dislike about the opposite gender would be their lack of empathy (although it is usually not intentional). I also dislike how aggressive and loud they can be.(5649)
    2. Generally what I find most appealing about the opposite sex is humor, their strength, protectiveness, and their nonchalant nature. The strength most men have is not only physically appealing but also very useful for heavy-lifting and their height is useful for when someone like me cannot reach a top shelf. Protectiveness goes hand in hand with masculinity. Men show their masculinity by being concerned for their significant other’s safety and well-being. However, there is a fine line between being protective and being possessive. This is not a trait distinct to men, there are many women that are considered crazy or jealous because they are constantly concerned as to where their significant other is. What I mean by nonchalant nature is that men are very relaxed and flexible with their time. They do not desire drama of any sorts and they are very accommodating. I dislike that that men are clueless of the hints women sometimes drop. I do not necessarily mean that every guy should be able to read the minds of women, however, I definitely feel that they could be a bit more observant and considerate of women’s emotions. This leads into their “closed-off” behavior towards their partners. Men view portraying their emotions as a sign of weakness, when they should view it as a way to connect with their partner on a deeper level. (2775)
    I likeWhen I think about the opposite sex, one thing I feel is that the opposite sex seemsfriendship is more real. Males tend to trigger so many emotions for each other. Whether that be because of feelings, conversations, words, interactions — there are always so many follow up reactions about encounters that go on between a malesay things to your face more often than not and female. Although a lot comes along with those feelings, good and bad,even though it may sting at first, it’s stimulatingwhat people need to even have interactions like that whichhear. I think are faralso tend to feel more different than same sex interactions. I also like the instant feeling of protection thatwhen I am with a male. If I were to walk down an alley in a bad neighborhood at night, I would feel around men.
    I dislike the way that their hyper masculinity can get in the way of truly connecting
    more protection with womenjust me and another male than me and two other females. It doesn’t make much sense especially since there are more people in the pridefemale group, but I would still have that they have to put aside to empathize and understandconfidence with the way the women naturally want to nurture and care for a male that they care about.male. 0226
    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
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    left unsaid.
    I find it frustrating when males think that females can’t handle certain things or situations. For example, certain conversations are “for the boys” and if there are girls around they will save it for later. 0226

    3) I think that guys misunderstands the fact that girls are sensitive and emotional. Girls being sensitive and emotional is part of who they are because I believe it is better to show your emotions rather than keeping it inside because it can be hard in a relationship if one person does not understand what you want. Also, girls are born with different hormones and those hormones tend to make girls more emotional the way they are. (9745
    3. They think that women are overly emotional when it is usually just because they are not in touch with their emotions and are not able to express them. If you ever bring up something that they did which upset you they get extremely defensive and blow it off saying that you are too emotional and that you are over reacting about the situation. (7497)
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    I feel as though men, as a stereotype, sometimes view women as more emotional or weaker than they are. In the sense that they are incapable of separating their emotions from certain situations. I have also heard that men think women love to gossip and thrive off of drama. It is strange because as a girl I would agree that I do enjoy talking about others, however, I do not necessarily always speak of them poorly. Since women do much more enjoy communicating with each other, they form a bond through their similar interests. Also, I would like to add that drama is in fact entertaining to listen to at times, but personally I do not enjoy starting drama or being involved in drama. Men also do not understand that women want honesty. I would much rather a guy tell me that he is not interested in my right off the bat as opposed to dragging me on for a few months before doing so. This way there are not as many feelings involved and both parties can feel slightly more relieved. (2775)
    #4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, et
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    extremely likeable.
    I think a big thing that attracts me to the opposite sex is their sense of humor. Initially I think physical attraction is important but the personality makes or breaks the attraction. Self-confidence in a male is important especially if the female is confident, but to a certain extent. It’s exhausting for both the male and female to constantly be complementing their significant other or reassuring them. 0226

    4. I have had three serious boyfriends and each time it was something different that made me attracted to them. Most recently it was because he is a hard worker and has drive and motivation. He is also very caring and loves life. He cares about his friends and family and most importantly is a gentleman. He takes an interest in my life and makes an effort with my friends and family. (7497)
    4 . The last man I found attractive was extremely funny. He was a bit quiet, but when he did talk he would make people laugh so much they’d almost cry. He would also joke with me and that made me feel special. (0224)
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    Strengths: Their systemizing and mechanistic skills. Their physical strength to handle heavy material. They are quicker at making decisions and don’t tend to hold grudges therefore are more forgiving.
    Weakness: Not so good at communication and expressing their feelings.
    The strengths of males would be their physical features-definitely not a weakness. With their physical features comes help with tasks like moving or handling heavy objects. I think when a male does care sincerely about something or someone it is interesting to see how they handle it, especially if they can show that with their friends. Men also have a few weaknesses. These include thinking it is okay to use their strength to control women. Also, not being able to emotionally understand females. They do not necessarily have to agree or act the same way as females but just to be able to understand them is more than enough. 0226
    5. Men’s weakness is that they do not know how to order food! They struggle with properly communicating what they want and then become upset when their order is wrong. However, their strength is they do not hold grudges. Although a friend can say or do something offensive, men tend to shrug it off and become buddies like nothing happened. (0224
    5. Men tend to be less self-critical and I think that is a strength. They are not in touch with their emotions which I think is a weakness and they are not good a communication. (7497)
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    6. I dated a boy for 5 years and at the very end he cheated on me with my best friend and the girl who outwardly disliked me. After I found out he ignored all my attempts to understand went wrong and after 5 months of me feeling like it was all my fault he finally decided to talk to me and then proceeded to try and get back together. He thought that because we were both going through a difficult time that he had the go-ahead to act out and do what he wanted because he wasn’t in control. (3584)
    6. It has happened often where the guys in the group make the final decision of what to do or where to go. I feel like they think that their opinion matters more than female opinions. Regardless of how wrong they are, they won’t admit to being at fault because they are too stubborn to even admit it to themselves. (4259)
    The last time I was mistreated by the opposite sex was when a male peer tried to take advantage of me. I needed to borrow his charger because I was separated from my friends after a party and he thought that I could repay him in ways I did not agree to and thankfully I got out of that situation. 0226
    6. One instance I can remember was in high school in my Chemistry class I worked with my male friend who sometimes tutored me after school and helped me with concepts I was struggling with. I remember at the end of the year thanking him for his help and asking him if he was planning on signing up for AP Chem. I told him how I wished I had as much ease understanding the material and he responded “Well don’t worry you’re a girl you’re not supposed to understand all of this”, and while I know he wasn’t intentionally trying to make such an offensive statement, it goes to show that these boys are learning this kind of behavior at a young age. To our detriment, they may be carrying on these beliefs for the rest of their lives. (8090)
    6. A time I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex was when my ex-boyfriend told me that I “couldn’t talk to any guys” after we broke up but the same rule did not apply to him. He would talk to any girl he wanted to which is a total double standard.(5649)
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    7. There are instances where people of the opposite sex have helped me carry things, especially with lifting heavy objects. This works perfectly for me because I do not have as much upper body strength as I want, which can be a problem. (0974)
    7. Whenever I go out to bars or to clubs in Las Vegas, it always helps to be a female because you can get into places for free while guys have to wait in line or pay a fee. 8870
    The last time a male treated me well because of my gender was when we were walking out of a club at 4 am to get food and some guy was trying to get my phone from my pocket and my male friend started yelling at him and making sure that I was okay. 0226
    7. I was recently on a flight where I was sitting in the middle on two men. The man on my left side was an old grumpy man and the man on my right side was a fairly attractive man in his 40s. When I sat down in my seat the man on my right, lets call him Tom, preceded to ask me about myself and acted very sweet to me. I figured that he was just a charming and nice person, as he proceeded to offer me opportunities to get free things from the business he was running. He also switched seats with me so I would have the aisle seat and wouldn’t have to sit in the middle seat, which everyone hates. I saw this as him being a kind person, because he had 3 children, who weren’t present, and saw me as a child myself because I am only 19. He then started flirting with me very strongly by referencing the mile high club, to which I was shocked and preceded to play dumb on what that meant. He then smiled and started explaining it to me to which I mentioned that he had a wife at home. At the end of the flight because I was going to miss my connecting flight he made an announcement on the whole plane that I have a connecting flight and cleared the way for me to make it in time. I do not believe that he would have helped me off the flight or offered me free things if I wasn’t a female. (1481)
    7. Being a woman has a few perks. Some men, not all, still believe in chivalry. It's the small things that make a big difference in my opinion. Holding doors open, paying for dinner and other things like that. I don't have one particular instance when I was treated extra nicely but just small acts of kindness help. (8003)
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    8. In third grade there was this popular boy every girl in the grade had a crush on including me. Girls started going up to him telling him they liked him and he would smile and act nice towards them. So I thought if it worked for them it must work for me. Well I was absolutely wrong because when I went up to him and I said I liked him under my breath he straight up started laughing wildly and ran up to his friends saying that I liked him. That was a low day in elementary school for me, I definitely felt insecure after that. If he just left off the laughing part or running his to friends or really any of that sweet moment. (5945)
    8. My freshman year of high school, a guy I really liked was sitting with me at a football game. He had told me how much he liked me and was holding my hand. Homecoming was coming up in about two weeks, and I was hoping he was going to ask me to be his date. I guess he sort of did, but it went a little more something like this, “So…Homecoming is coming up. I’m planning on asking this girl Jordan, but if she says no, would you want to go with me?” It was the biggest slap in the face I have ever experienced from a guy (thank goodness for that). Completely setting me aside as a backup choice was inconsiderate, rude, and insensitive. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough to be his date, and if anything he would have to settle for me. (8635)
    When I think of the times I have been rejected they aren’t necessarily bad because I know that I have done the same. It is when they do not text back and just leave you hanging. It’s better to just be straight up with someone instead of leading them on. Yes, it hurts but it might be easier to get over. 0226
    8. I remember one night I went out and me and this boy were flirting and it was fun and harmless and I was having a good time. An hour passes and we haven’t had the chance to really talk so I go up to chat a little more and at this point he turns to me and says, “no … sorry, but like your blond friend…” and I laugh to myself and I was just like woah. My feelings weren’t hurt because he decided he was more attracted to my friend than me, I was just taken aback that this guy felt so empowered and confident to dismiss another person like that instead of just having a friendly conversation and saying, “hey I think I would like to get to know your friend more” instead of just moving me to the side. (3584).
    8) I don’t remember ever being rejected but I remember instances of rejecting others. This one time I was walking around a park with my family and a fairly good looking guy came up to me and tried to talk to me. He kept telling me how I was the most beautiful girl that he had ever met and really wanted my number. I told him I had a boyfriend and awkwardly tried walking away. I felt bad but I really wanted to get out of there. (4259)
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    9. I would probably hold his hand or give him a kiss on the cheek at some point throughout the date to signal that I was interested physically to ensure that that was a clear aspect of the relationship and that we were on the same page. later I would suggest that we go back to one of our places and see how he responds, and then probably talk to him about how I felt about him as an explanation for me desire or trust to be intimate for him (1569)
    9. I would probably try to make basic physical contact with him, such as putting my hand on his knee or holding his hand. After that I would wait for some sort of response and let him initiate any further contact. If he did initiate further contact and it became more intimate, I would later verbally express what type of physical affection I was ok with at this point. (8778)
    If the date has been going very well I would try to give subtle hints. I am not one to talk about feelings so I don’t think I would bring it up. I would definitely wait until he said something. Also, it is scary to be the first one to bring it up when you aren’t sure if the person feels the same way. 0226
    9.I would probably initiate some type of casual contact, like brushing his arm or touching his hand. I might even initiate holding hands. I probably wouldn’t initiate a kiss or anything further than that though. If I was comfortable enough with the person I would probably even ask why we hadn’t kissed yet. 1524
    9. If the date was going well and I was physically attracted to the person I was with, I would try to look for cues to how he was feeling. If I felt we were on the same page I would just go for it. I would flirt and probably move closer to that person to the point where I could eventually lock eyes with them and go in for a kiss! If I was unsure, I would drop low-key hints that I was attracted to him and see how he reacted to that. (6955)
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    10. I would make it clear that I wanted to remain in public places to avoid any further intimacy (such as not wanted to go back to either of our places, or somewhere where I knew that we would be alone together) and then just try to be clear and emphasize my enjoyment in spending time with him and talking to him such that there is an emphasis away from the physical aspects of our relationship. (1569)
    10. I would not initiate any physical contact and shy away a bit when he did. If he initiated going back to a private place where there would be an opportunity for us to be more intimate, I would verbally voice that I was not interested in this type of relationship, but let him know that I enjoy hanging out as friends. (8778)
    If I wasn’t interested in this person from the beginning there would not be a second date, or that awkward interaction of trying to avoid becoming sexual. 0226
    10.I would start using the term “friend” a lot more often in reference to the boy. I probably would also pull away from any physical contact that way he doesn’t get the wrong idea. 1524
    10. I am really bad at saying no. When I have been in a situation where someone is interested in me and I am not interested in them, I tend to make up an excuse to leave and usually avoid them and their texts in the future. This I realize is a little hypocritical of me considering when guys have done this to me, my world is over for a week. (6955)
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    11) you talk to someone else that is potentially someone that likes you/someone you could be interested in (8635)
    11) I hang out with my guy friends for about the same or more amount of time I spend with them. (3584).
    In general, it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become “insanely” jealous when they seen their significant other texting the opposite sex. 0226
    11) The opposite sex talks to me or if I hang out with guys. (4259)
    11. other guys stare at you or compliment you (8090)
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    12. Is more likely to try to initiate the first move.(4259)
    12. always makes the first move and tend to get noticeably nervous before doing so, giving us a hint when something is about to happen. (5649)
    When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex usually initiates it. 0226
    #13. The opposite sex seems clueless about...
    13. the female anatomy and her sex drive (0224)
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    13. Emotions and feelings. (6955)
    13. ... emotions. (0974)13. emotions. (7497)13. The female anatomy when it comes to sex. They have a different sex drive from women 8870
    The opposite sex seems clueless about everything. Especially when it comes to females. 0226
    13. Men are clueless about the amount of effort that women expect them to put into having a successful relationship. Most men do not continue to put in the effort as the relationship progresses, which is something we can especially see in marriages when men get too “comfortable” and the romance and excitement dies. (1481)
    13. ... how to effectively communicate with women. They aren't very good at explaining their emotions or connecting with others on an emotional level, which can make communication more difficult. (8003)
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    14. can be surprisingly great at (3584)
    14. Can actually be really good at. When a guy really likes you I feel like he goes out of his way to please you. (4259)
    Being romantic is something that the opposite sex does not usually do but when they do and they are serious about it it’s a huge turn on. 0226
    14. is not very good at unless they REALLY like the girl and are really trying to impress them. (5649)
    #15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by...
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    15. By introducing you to their family. From my experience, family is very important and their opinions matter a lot. (4259)
    15. seeing if they care enough to be the first one to text/call them. (5649)
    Sometimes it seems that the opposite puts their girlfriend through a series of relationship “tests” by seeing their they are liked by their mom. 0226
    #16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to...
    16. sexuality! When women have multiple sex partners, they are considered whores or sluts, but men can sleep with as many people as they’d like. (0224)
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    16. anything domestic, such as cooking, cleaning, and taking care of children 1524
    16. Sports. (6955)
    The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to sports, when they have to cook, clean or quit their job to take care of the children. 0226
    16. ... threatening their own status, especially when it comes to their capabilities. (0974)16. Sports or drinking. Guys think that girls cannot drink as much as them (8870)
    16. Men support equality when it deals with women making the first move. It seems that men find it attractive when a woman can confidently ask a man out, and they claim that its not only the job of a guy to ask out the female.(1481)
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    17. …may have trouble controlling if there is not trust in the relationship. (8778)
    17. often turns into aggression 1524
    Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex needs to work on. It is not attractive when they get controlling. 0226
    17. Needs to work on because it leads to jealousy
    17. Is a lot of. (6955)
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    18. Look a lot better with an athletic physique. (4259)
    18. takes this into consideration before anything else when looking for a love interest. (5649)
    When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex only focus on that when searching for women. 0226
    #19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex...
    19. find highly important (0224)
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    19. Money and status are something that men in society appear to thrive for and use this as an advantage to get the attention of the attractive or high status female. It also allows them to have their pick of many females and to continue to meet new attractive females. (1481)
    19. ... cares a lot about. Men see their income and status as a symbol of their manhood. (8003)
    Money and status are things that the opposite sex tend to strive for so they can have the hottest wife possible. 0226
    19. prioritize. (7497)
    19) seems to be driven by. (5945)
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    20. Puts me in a category as if because i am a woman i must be dumb or not as smart as them (3584).20. Cares so much about what a woman looks only on the outside. (4259)
    20. disregards my feelings by putting their own well-being before mine. (5649)
    It hurts me most when the opposite sex talk about women as if they are a prize or a piece of meat. It’s disgusting and completely disrespectful. 0226
    #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when...
    21. they appreciate and value me (0224)
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    21. When they are sensitive, respectful, romantic, protective, and vulnerable (8090)
    21. I feel like I am being respected/listened to. (5649)
    I feel best about the opposite sex when they show their feelings through actions and words. 0226
    discussion
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    When it comes to men, I enjoy how straightforeward they are. If they have a problem with one another they will tell them to their face and ten minutes later they are back to being friends. They say what they think which is often refreshing and you can count on them to be honest about their thoughts. I dislike on the other hand how confrontational men seem to be. Its as though when angry they look for a fight which often leads to a physical confrontation. (9609)
    2. Generally what I find most appealing about the opposite sex is humor, their strength, protectiveness, and their nonchalant nature. The strength most men have is not only physically appealing but also very useful for heavy-lifting and their height is useful for when someone like me cannot reach a top shelf. Protectiveness goes hand in hand with masculinity. Men show their masculinity by being concerned for their significant other’s safety and well-being. However, there is a fine line between being protective and being possessive. This is not a trait distinct to men, there are many women that are considered crazy or jealous because they are constantly concerned as to where their significant other is. What I mean by nonchalant nature is that men are very relaxed and flexible with their time. They do not desire drama of any sorts and they are very accommodating. I dislike that that men are clueless of the hints women sometimes drop. I do not necessarily mean that every guy should be able to read the minds of women, however, I definitely feel that they could be a bit more observant and considerate of women’s emotions. This leads into their “closed-off” behavior towards their partners. Men view portraying their emotions as a sign of weakness, when they should view it as a way to connect with their partner on a deeper level. (2775)
    I like that the opposite sex seems to trigger so many emotions for each other. Whether that be because of feelings, conversations, words, interactions — there are always so many follow up reactions about encounters that go on between a male and female. Although a lot comes along with those feelings, good and bad, it’s stimulating to even have interactions like that which I think are far more different than same sex interactions. I also like the instant feeling of protection that I feel around men.
    I dislike the way that their hyper masculinity can get in the way of truly connecting with women and the pride that they have to put aside to empathize and understand the way the women naturally want to nurture and care for a male that they care about. (8701)

    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
    I think most men chalk women up to being extra emotional and irrational. But in reality, I think most women are very strong and logical. (7407)
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    Assuming that anger or other strong emotions are because we’re on our period is a big thing that men tend to misunderstand about women. Feeling passionately enough about something to vocalize it doesn’t necessarily mean that. Also, hormones don’t have full control over our emotions during that time; we don’t become completely different people, so what we say or feel must have some grounds somewhere within us. (9166)
    3. I would say women’s emotions. Men have a hard time understanding why we take the little things to heart, why we say we are fine when we are not and why we can hold grudges so long. These are all things that derive from our emotions and most of the time we get upset because men disregard to easily something that we find meaningful or important. (5369)
    I think that males overthink the sensitivity we carry with ourselves and fail to realize that sometimes these sensitivities are triggered by the actions of males. Getting reactions like, “why do girls even care when a guy does this?”, or “does she really think that that picture looks good?” are definitely things that trigger sensitive feelings amongst the opposite gender without even realizing that insecurities also stem from this. (8701)
    3. Ithink guys misunderstand the emotional needs of women the most. Because they do not have the same needs, it is very difficult for them to understand that women have so many. I think many women need a guy to constantly be there for them and guys don’t understand that need. (6991)
    3. I think men think that all women want a man to fix their problems, when in actuality women just want someone to talk to- someone to listen to them and tell them that everything will be okay. When I first started dating my boyfriend, I would call him and vent to him about a bad day I had and instead of listening to me vent, he would get irritated of me complaining and just say, “well what do you want me to do about it?” The answer is nothing. We don’t want or need men to fix our problems- we can handle it ourselves. But what we do want and need is someone to listen to our problems, show genuine concern, and then be there to support us and encourage us to keep going even when the going gets tough. (2307)
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    What most attracts me to men is if they are ambitious and motivated, which you can tell by the their job status, if they own a car, how the talk about their passions, etc. I also find a balanced confidence and good humor to be attractive. Lastly, I think it’s very attractive when men take pride in the way the look, like if they have good teeth, combed hair, a good outfit, etc. And then I obviously find other physical traits to be attractive such as being taller than me and things like that. (7407)
    4. I feel like straight off I’m attracted to a man’s physical appearance and self-confidence. If they approach me and talk to me with an air of confidence I will be more inclined to want to get to know them. After completing that first interaction I then start to look at personality and sense of humor. I want to see if I will be able to build a relationship with that person and make sure they don’t bore me.
    I’m extremely attracted to the way that a male interacts with my friends and family, shows genuine interest in my life and knows how to put their career and academics on the front-runner. Confidence is also attractive, but not when it becomes cocky and crosses the border or bragging and not making each experience genuine with the significant other. I also love manners and the idea of initiating the conversation, along with definitely taking looks into consideration, but almost to the point where personality makes up a lot of the looks. (8701)
    4.Some characteristics that I am attracted to in men are the physical. Such as, their facial structure, facial hair, hair in general, eyes, back and shoulders, arms, and hands. What is most important is their personality. Specifically I like a guy’s inner confidence (a confidence in which he knows he a great person but does not need to prove it), humility, care for others (children, family, friends), ambition, and open-mindedness. The top two personality traits I find most important are ambition and open-mindedness. Additionally, a gesture towards me that I enjoy is looking at me when we have a conversation.(4012)
    4. Humor is a big part of my personality, so I find it very attractive when a guy has a similar sense of humor or generally makes me smile. Along with that, I would say that guys who can carry a conversation and are approachable and easy to talk to attract me instantly.(2955)
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    2. What I like the most about the opposite sex would be their confidence/willingness to protect women and put others first. I also tend to like their humor and easy-goingness. What I dislike about the opposite gender would be their lack of empathy (although it is usually not intentional). I also dislike how aggressive and loud they can be.(5649)
    2. Generally what I find most appealing about the opposite sex is humor, their strength, protectiveness, and their nonchalant nature. The strength most men have is not only physically appealing but also very useful for heavy-lifting and their height is useful for when someone like me cannot reach a top shelf. Protectiveness goes hand in hand with masculinity. Men show their masculinity by being concerned for their significant other’s safety and well-being. However, there is a fine line between being protective and being possessive. This is not a trait distinct to men, there are many women that are considered crazy or jealous because they are constantly concerned as to where their significant other is. What I mean by nonchalant nature is that men are very relaxed and flexible with their time. They do not desire drama of any sorts and they are very accommodating. I dislike that that men are clueless of the hints women sometimes drop. I do not necessarily mean that every guy should be able to read the minds of women, however, I definitely feel that they could be a bit more observant and considerate of women’s emotions. This leads into their “closed-off” behavior towards their partners. Men view portraying their emotions as a sign of weakness, when they should view it as a way to connect with their partner on a deeper level. (2775)
    I like that the opposite sex seems to trigger so many emotions for each other. Whether that be because of feelings, conversations, words, interactions — there are always so many follow up reactions about encounters that go on between a male and female. Although a lot comes along with those feelings, good and bad, it’s stimulating to even have interactions like that which I think are far more different than same sex interactions. I also like the instant feeling of protection that I feel around men.
    I dislike the way that their hyper masculinity can get in the way of truly connecting with women and the pride that they have to put aside to empathize and understand the way the women naturally want to nurture and care for a male that they care about.

    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
    One thing that men often misunderstand about women is what we mean to say. Men tend to take everything a woman says as literal. They suck at reading between the lines, interpreting emotions, or understanding what is left unsaid.
    ...
    Should understand and take seriously.(9745)
    14. Does not care about (0496)
    ...
    effort on
    14. ... should enjoy and want to bring about and hopefully take part in it (1569)
    14. should put more effort into and engage in quite often (8090)
    ...
    Testing them by asking them to do certain things such as having sex with them. (9745)
    15. “If you love me you would suck my dick” (0496)
    ...
    their family/friends
    #15....seeing how they react when another man is flirting with them. (1333)15. introducing her to his family. (6553)
    15. …introducing them to friends and family or inviting them to travel or go on vacation with their family. (8778)
    ...
    17. …may have trouble controlling if there is not trust in the relationship. (8778)
    17. often turns into aggression 1524
    ...
    to jealousy
    17. Is a lot of. (6955)
    17. ... takes part in often. (0974)
    ...
    19. …appreciate and try to match with their own status (8778)
    19. take for granted 1524
    ...
    and prioritizes
    19. Value (6955)
    19. ... should take into consideration when it comes to their perceived attractiveness. (0974)
    ...
    20. Sexually objectify women in any way (0496)
    20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex insults a woman because of her looks. I think that men don’t realize how hurtful it is when they say a snide remark about a woman’s appearance. In my experience, I have had my feelings hurt when a male friend insults another girl, even if I don’t know her. It makes me wonder what they think about me, even when the relationship is completely platonic. (0632)
    ...
    disrespects me
    20. ...fails to treat me with respect and to see me for the individual that I am, no matter the situation (1569)
    20. doesn't at least try and empathize with your feelings or act like they care that you are upset. (7497)20. is disrespectful and underestimates women (8090)
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    They are understanding,trustworthy, respectful, and are open to my opinions. (9745)
    21. They are kind and respectful. (0496)
    ...
    of intimidated
    21. ... they see and value the positive qualities that I possess and we can mutually enjoy each othesr company (1569)
    21. I am around my boyfriend. (7497)
    ...
    When it comes to men, I enjoy how straightforeward they are. If they have a problem with one another they will tell them to their face and ten minutes later they are back to being friends. They say what they think which is often refreshing and you can count on them to be honest about their thoughts. I dislike on the other hand how confrontational men seem to be. Its as though when angry they look for a fight which often leads to a physical confrontation. (9609)
    2. Generally what I find most appealing about the opposite sex is humor, their strength, protectiveness, and their nonchalant nature. The strength most men have is not only physically appealing but also very useful for heavy-lifting and their height is useful for when someone like me cannot reach a top shelf. Protectiveness goes hand in hand with masculinity. Men show their masculinity by being concerned for their significant other’s safety and well-being. However, there is a fine line between being protective and being possessive. This is not a trait distinct to men, there are many women that are considered crazy or jealous because they are constantly concerned as to where their significant other is. What I mean by nonchalant nature is that men are very relaxed and flexible with their time. They do not desire drama of any sorts and they are very accommodating. I dislike that that men are clueless of the hints women sometimes drop. I do not necessarily mean that every guy should be able to read the minds of women, however, I definitely feel that they could be a bit more observant and considerate of women’s emotions. This leads into their “closed-off” behavior towards their partners. Men view portraying their emotions as a sign of weakness, when they should view it as a way to connect with their partner on a deeper level. (2775)
    I like that the opposite sex seems to trigger so many emotions for each other. Whether that be because of feelings, conversations, words, interactions — there are always so many follow up reactions about encounters that go on between a male and female. Although a lot comes along with those feelings, good and bad, it’s stimulating to even have interactions like that which I think are far more different than same sex interactions. I also like the instant feeling of protection that I feel around men.
    I dislike the way that their hyper masculinity can get in the way of truly connecting with women and the pride that they have to put aside to empathize and understand the way the women naturally want to nurture and care for a male that they care about. (8701)

    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
    I think most men chalk women up to being extra emotional and irrational. But in reality, I think most women are very strong and logical. (7407)
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    Assuming that anger or other strong emotions are because we’re on our period is a big thing that men tend to misunderstand about women. Feeling passionately enough about something to vocalize it doesn’t necessarily mean that. Also, hormones don’t have full control over our emotions during that time; we don’t become completely different people, so what we say or feel must have some grounds somewhere within us. (9166)
    3. I would say women’s emotions. Men have a hard time understanding why we take the little things to heart, why we say we are fine when we are not and why we can hold grudges so long. These are all things that derive from our emotions and most of the time we get upset because men disregard to easily something that we find meaningful or important. (5369)
    I think that males overthink the sensitivity we carry with ourselves and fail to realize that sometimes these sensitivities are triggered by the actions of males. Getting reactions like, “why do girls even care when a guy does this?”, or “does she really think that that picture looks good?” are definitely things that trigger sensitive feelings amongst the opposite gender without even realizing that insecurities also stem from this. (8701)
    3. Ithink guys misunderstand the emotional needs of women the most. Because they do not have the same needs, it is very difficult for them to understand that women have so many. I think many women need a guy to constantly be there for them and guys don’t understand that need. (6991)
    3. I think men think that all women want a man to fix their problems, when in actuality women just want someone to talk to- someone to listen to them and tell them that everything will be okay. When I first started dating my boyfriend, I would call him and vent to him about a bad day I had and instead of listening to me vent, he would get irritated of me complaining and just say, “well what do you want me to do about it?” The answer is nothing. We don’t want or need men to fix our problems- we can handle it ourselves. But what we do want and need is someone to listen to our problems, show genuine concern, and then be there to support us and encourage us to keep going even when the going gets tough. (2307)
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    What most attracts me to men is if they are ambitious and motivated, which you can tell by the their job status, if they own a car, how the talk about their passions, etc. I also find a balanced confidence and good humor to be attractive. Lastly, I think it’s very attractive when men take pride in the way the look, like if they have good teeth, combed hair, a good outfit, etc. And then I obviously find other physical traits to be attractive such as being taller than me and things like that. (7407)
    4. I feel like straight off I’m attracted to a man’s physical appearance and self-confidence. If they approach me and talk to me with an air of confidence I will be more inclined to want to get to know them. After completing that first interaction I then start to look at personality and sense of humor. I want to see if I will be able to build a relationship with that person and make sure they don’t bore me.
    I’m extremely attracted to the way that a male interacts with my friends and family, shows genuine interest in my life and knows how to put their career and academics on the front-runner. Confidence is also attractive, but not when it becomes cocky and crosses the border or bragging and not making each experience genuine with the significant other. I also love manners and the idea of initiating the conversation, along with definitely taking looks into consideration, but almost to the point where personality makes up a lot of the looks. (8701)
    4.Some characteristics that I am attracted to in men are the physical. Such as, their facial structure, facial hair, hair in general, eyes, back and shoulders, arms, and hands. What is most important is their personality. Specifically I like a guy’s inner confidence (a confidence in which he knows he a great person but does not need to prove it), humility, care for others (children, family, friends), ambition, and open-mindedness. The top two personality traits I find most important are ambition and open-mindedness. Additionally, a gesture towards me that I enjoy is looking at me when we have a conversation.(4012)
    4. Humor is a big part of my personality, so I find it very attractive when a guy has a similar sense of humor or generally makes me smile. Along with that, I would say that guys who can carry a conversation and are approachable and easy to talk to attract me instantly.(2955)
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    4. Thinking about someone I was recently attracted to, some characteristics that initially attracted me would be their physical attributes. Some examples would include facial features, physique, smile, and laugh. The most important factor for me would be an open, kind, respectful, and humorous personality. I think that a great sense of humor is one of my favorite attributes in a guy. If he can make me laugh, I probably find him more attractive. Confidence is also very attractive but to a certain degree. Men who are overconfident and full of themselves are extremely unattractive. Men who are physically fit and take care of their bodies are also very attractive. Taking care of one’s physical and mental care and health is also a sign of responsibility and maturity which is an attractive trait as well. (8090)
    4. What attracts me to guys the most would definitely be their sense of humor and overall personality. Physical appearance is also important because you need to feel attracted to them physically but the humor/personality is a make-or-break for me. (5649)
    The last male I found myself attracted to was very physically masculine but also had a sense of humor and was quirky. This person also had soft facial features which made him seem approachable. Additionally, he was very friendly although we were acquaintances. He definitely portrayed confidence but was sparing with it, I never felt like he was being cocky. His sense of humor made it easier for us to connect on a different level because we were able to joke with one another. (2775)
    #5. In your opinion, what are the strengths and weaknesses of the opposite sex?
    5.
    ...
    #11. In general, it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become "insanely" jealous when...
    11. There are other guys talking to their girlfriend or showing some type of interest in her. (0224)
    They11. Other guys ask me to dance with them
    11. They
    see their
    11. You talk to people of the other sex (0496)
    11. ... he see's another man flirting with his girl (1569)
    ...
    #12. When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex...
    12. tends to be just as nervous (0224)
    12. Lean forward for a kiss and tend to get very touchy
    Should ask for consent before taking it to the next level. (9745)
    12. Is sometimes not as forward as the stereotype, but if we were going with the stereotypical “man’s man,” then they can move just way too fast without considering the woman’s feelings (0469)
    ...
    13. Emotions, non-explicit communicative cues (0496)
    13. our emotions and why we like to communicate more about them. (6553)
    13. Period cramps
    13. …connecting emotional cues to their cause (8778).
    13. the menstrual cycle 1524
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    Should understand and take seriously.(9745)
    14. Does not care about (0496)
    14. Can either be very good or need to put more effort on
    14. ... should enjoy and want to bring about and hopefully take part in it (1569)
    14. should put more effort into and engage in quite often (8090)
    ...
    Testing them by asking them to do certain things such as having sex with them. (9745)
    15. “If you love me you would suck my dick” (0496)
    15. Inviting them to meet their family/friends
    #15....seeing how they react when another man is flirting with them. (1333)15. introducing her to his family. (6553)
    15. …introducing them to friends and family or inviting them to travel or go on vacation with their family. (8778)
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    16. They just don't, stereotypically
    16. career or job position. Men always want to make more money than women. (6553)
    16. Women not being good at cooking, cleaning, or taking care of children
    16. women being sexually liberal (8090)
    16. …issues that regard the woman’s body, such as abortion. (8778)
    ...
    17. …may have trouble controlling if there is not trust in the relationship. (8778)
    17. often turns into aggression 1524
    17. Needs to work on because it leads to jealousy
    17. Is a lot of. (6955)
    17. ... takes part in often. (0974)
    ...
    18. values it fairly highly in mate selection (1569)
    18. …finds it important and often tries to match it with their own. (8778)
    18. Can be good looking without even trying
    18. is hit or miss 1524
    18. tends to judge a girl off of it. (7497)
    ...
    19. …appreciate and try to match with their own status (8778)
    19. take for granted 1524
    19. Values and prioritizes
    19. Value (6955)
    19. ... should take into consideration when it comes to their perceived attractiveness. (0974)
    ...
    20. Sexually objectify women in any way (0496)
    20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex insults a woman because of her looks. I think that men don’t realize how hurtful it is when they say a snide remark about a woman’s appearance. In my experience, I have had my feelings hurt when a male friend insults another girl, even if I don’t know her. It makes me wonder what they think about me, even when the relationship is completely platonic. (0632)
    20. Offends and disrespects me
    20. ...fails to treat me with respect and to see me for the individual that I am, no matter the situation (1569)
    20. doesn't at least try and empathize with your feelings or act like they care that you are upset. (7497)20. is disrespectful and underestimates women (8090)
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    They are understanding,trustworthy, respectful, and are open to my opinions. (9745)
    21. They are kind and respectful. (0496)
    21. They make me feel safe and protected instead of intimidated
    21. ... they see and value the positive qualities that I possess and we can mutually enjoy each othesr company (1569)
    21. I am around my boyfriend. (7497)
    ...
    11. … you are talking to other people of the opposite sex. (0018)
    11 ) The opposite sex becomes insanely jealous when another male attempts to talk to their girlfriend even if it is a friendly manner. It makes them feel inferior about themselves eventhough the interaction between the other two could have been completely innocent
    11. They see you with another guy and realize that you are losing interest in them. (2775)
    #12. When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex...
    can be forceful. (7407)
    ...
    12. … is more forward and aggressive. (0018)
    When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time the a guy is usually more straightforward than the girl. (4605)
    12. Should verbally ask you if you are okay with what he is initiating. (2775)
    #13. The opposite sex seems clueless about...
    13. the way females overthink everything they say to us
    ...
    13. what women really want when it comes to relationships. (0018)
    A guy seems clueless about what is going on in a girls mind (4605)
    13. How simple women actually are. Once men open up to us and give us the attention we crave, we are actually very easy to communicate with. (2775)
    #14. Being romantic is something that the opposite sex...
    struggles to grasp. (7407)
    ...
    14. ...can be good at if they really wanted to (0018)
    1) being romantic is something that the opposite sex does to get what he wants. (4605)
    14. Is not always great at doing. (2775)
    #15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by...
    seeing how you interact with their friends or seeing how you do with one their favorite activities (like camping). (7407)
    ...
    15) having them hangout with his friends to see what they think of her (9634)
    15. … asking them to fulfill certain favors or asking them to take their relationship to the next step. (0018)
    ...
    him (4605)
    15. Asking if they look “fat” in a dress, telling their significant other it’s a boys/girls night. (2775)

    #16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to...
    household duties, competing for job positions, and “who wears the pants in the relationship”. (7407)
    ...
    16. ...domesticity (0018)
    A guy seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to driving (4605)
    16. Strength. (2775)
    #17. Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex...
    is always claiming. I’m not sure if men realize yet that women do not like to be identified as your object to own. (7407)
    ...
    17. … tends to have, and could later be dangerous. (0018)
    Possesivness is something that the a guy has a lot of (4605)
    17. Does not understand. They usually think they’re just being protective and concerned of their boyfriend/girlfriend. However, they do not understand how aggressively it can come off sometimes. (2775)
    #18. When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex...
    can always pull that off. (7407)
    ...
    18. … tends to look at the level of attractiveness before personality. (0018)
    When it comes to physical attractiveness the a guy focuses on a girls figure, smile and eyes (4605)
    18. Is very attractive. (2775)
    #19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex...
    doesn’t care enough about. Sometimes it seems that men would be happy living in a box as long as they had sex and food. They could maybe strive for more. (7407)
    ...
    19. … value. (0018)
    money and status are things that men do not value as much as woman do (4605)
    19. Is concerned about. (2775)
    #20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex..
    Lies and does not respect me. (9745)
    ...
    20. ... takes you for granted/doesn’t respect you. (0018)
    it hurts me most when a guy is not loyal (4605)
    20. Is inconsiderate of my feelings. (2775)
    #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when...
    They are understanding,trustworthy, respectful, and are open to my opinions. (9745)
    ...
    21. … they appreciate you. (0018)
    I feel bad when a guy gets turned down because it lowers his self esteem. It is tougher to be guy in this sense because it is more common for a guy to approach the girl so the girl hold more power because she is the one who can decide if she wants it or not. (4605)
    21. They are respectful, considerate, and want to have fun with me. (2775)
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