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    19. Value for their future. They desire/are driven by a lot of money and a high social status (3584).
    #20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex...
    20. Judge appearances harshly or recount sexual exploitsSexually objectify women in an attempt to impress their bros.any way (0496)
    20. ...fails to treat me with respect and to see me for the individual that I am, no matter the situation (1569)
    20. …focuses solely on physical intimacy and appearance, rather than regarding me for the whole person that I am and appreciating what else I have to offer. (8778)
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    1. 7. Because I am a female, whenever I go out on a date, everything is paid for, and I never touch a door handle, and I usually make the decisions as to what I want to do or how long to stay, etc.
    #8. Describe an instance, or instances, when you have been rejected by someone of the opposite sex to whom you were attracted. How did they reject you? Was their behavior inconsiderate, rude or insensitive? How did it make you feel? How might they have done it in a more considerate way?
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    that instead. I met this guy at a bonfire and we talked and flirted for a bit, but he got way too forward too fast and it was very creepy. Unfortunately I had already given him my number after I realized this, and my phone couldn't block callers. He kept
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    wasn’t interested. What made this really creepy was he would do this in the form of asking me to "piggyback ride" him. Every single time he saw me he literally begged me to do this and it was very, very uncomfortable. When we
    8. I had been talking to this guy for two months when he ghosted me. He cut off all contact and completely stopped talking to me and when I sent him an angry drunken text a few months later describing how I had been hurt and I would have appreciated if he had had the guts to just tell me he didn't want to see me anymore. He didn't reply, but he has watched every single one of my snapchat stories since he ghosted me and continues to like my pictures on Instagram. I don't get it and at this point I think it's childish and rude since I feel like he's trolling me because there's no other logical explanation for it. (38750)
    8. In middle school I had a crush on a guy who had a crush on my best friend. He rejected me indirectly by always paying constant attention to her when she was around and making me feel invisible. I knew he didn't mean to, but it was definitely somewhat insensitive. I think being rejected is always hard because its nothing but personal, so it hurts like crazy. I guess he could have tried to be considerate or a little more discrete about his feelings for her when I was around (1569)
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    #1. Think about the previous interactions you have had with the opposite sex. Has a situation ever occurred with someone of opposite sex that you found deeply puzzling and/or incomprehensible? And which you also think is somehow a function of that person's gender (not just the specific individual involved)? If so, think about what happened, and the behaviors, cognitions, motivations, or emotions of the opposite sex that you found particularly puzzling.
    1. I’m not sure if this counts as an interaction, but in middle school, we rotated classrooms and desks kind of like high schools do and I shared my desk with a group of 7th grader boys, and I would always find these drawings (and once even paper cutouts) of dicks. Just so many different doodles of dicks, how their dicks were bigger than their friends’ dicks, their friends sucking on their hairy phallus, just endless dicks in my desk. It was that sort of jokingly “homo-no-homo” sort of thing? Why boys are so fascinated by their own dicks and why they feel the need to engage in heterosexual yet honestly homoerotic interactions completely baffles me. (0496)
    1. A situation that was baffling to me was after this guy told me he wanted to marry me and that he didn't date girls unless he saw a future with them and that he was a relationship guy and that he even thought we were lovers in a past life, he told me that he did not want a relationship and he had never said anything to imply that or try to make me become attached. There are a lot of other reasons and examples of why this guy is crazy, but it was so baffling to me that he could say that and wholeheartedly believe that he was no contradicting himself. I like to think that I pretty good at reading people but that really threw me off. (38750)
    1. I’ve had instances where I’ve talked to guys for a long period of time, and they’ve legitimately flat out told me they liked me, and then slowly it fizzles out, or when we hangout together they don’t make a move, and I don’t know if because they’re nervous or their feelings change, but it just left me feeling confused and like I was playing some sort of game. I think this goes into boys being clueless and not realizing that they’re playing a game because they don’t analyze the situation like I do. However, I was super confused for a while and when I did eventually end whatever was going on I was left sort of wondering what went wrong and what that person’s reasoning or feelings were.
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    1) Based on pervious interactions I have had with the opposite sex, I find men’s approach to commitment and labels puzzling. This is because they typically want the relationship without the labels. I dated this guy who persistently pursued me after we met out at a bar. His persistence led me to believe he was a relationship guy looking for a girlfriend. We started hanging out a lot and I became under the impression that he might be nervous to ask me to be official, therefore I decided to initiate the conversation. He hesitated and then explained that we are getting to know each other and that he is not ready to make it official. I was okay with that answer but it was also confusing. I was confused because he had admitted he liked me, had taken me out on dates, wanted to be exclusive and got me a thoughtful Christmas present and card. He even flew home with me and met my family before being comfortable labeling me as his girlfriend. I think this is somehow a function of his gender because as an individual he wanted the relationship but it was his perception about the label (and maybe the feelings associated with it) that scared him. Nothing about our relationship would have changed had we made it official sooner. (9634)
    #2. In general, what do you like about the opposite sex? What do you dislike? Again, think of the opposite sex in general, as they actually are, not how you might like them to be different.
    2. To be honest, I can’t really think of any stereotypically masculine traits that appeal to me. What I like about the boys in my life are gender neutral traits such as kindness and intelligence and all that. What I don’t like about the stereotypical male is that they get angry and aggressive and violent more easily, they’re pretty messy and can’t take very good care of themselves hygienically, they tend to be shallow and objectify women, they place too much emphasis on being sexually promiscuous, they don’t help with housework or with children, they get so needlessly worked up over sports, they aren’t in touch with their own and other people’s emotions, and so on and so forth. I think men feel like they constantly have to prove their own masculinity, which is kind of annoying. (0496)
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    I mostly like that men are protectors and also their spontaneity is something I can be envious of. I dislike their lack of cleanliness and hygiene, and the fact that they can be stubborn and insensitive at times.
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    2) In general, what I like about men is their simplicity. They are simple in the sense that they are straightforward and low maintenance. They say what they are thinking because they don’t over think and complicate things. They are low maintenance because they care less about image. I also like how they are protective. I feel safer walking with a man and am comforted by his presence, even if we are alone in my house. The usefulness of men is also likeable. They are especially handy when moving because they are able to lift heavier objects and some have a truck. In general, what I dislike about men is their lack of emotional intelligence. I don’t know if they are even aware that they do this, but they seem to not be in tune with their emotions because they don’t express them as much as women. This then leads to a lack of empathy, which is frustrating when we want them to understand why we are upset. A lack of empathy then results in narrow-mindedness, which is frustrating when trying to discuss worldviews that are different than their own. (9634)
    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
    3. I don’t think women are overly emotional, it’s just that men aren’t in touch with their own emotions so they can’t empathize. (0496)
    3. When men think that women belong in the kitchen. Not all women like to cook or even know how to cook. (3892)
    3. Men seem to always be misunderstood in thinking that women always want something serious. They think if they take you on a real date you are going to try to marry them or that if you want to hang out more you are trying to be their girlfriend. (8778)
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    3) One thing that men misunderstand about women is our “strength”. Men perceive us as weak because we express our emotions and are more sensitive, but we actually embody a lot of strength because of the societal obstacles that we have to overcome in our everyday lives. Even if we aren’t aware of it, we are constantly overcoming objectifications and assumptions regarding our abilities. Constantly having to prove our worthiness requires a strength that men haven’t developed.
    #4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, etc.?
    4. I like a guy who is relatively well groomed and doesn’t smell bad. The last guy I liked was really nice, funny, a huge dork, intelligent consumer of media, aware of social justice, and secure enough in his masculinity in that he didn’t feel the need to demonstrate his “machoness” all the time. We’re both artists, and he is tremendously talented and I’ve always admired his work. Even though he’s way better than I am, he never talked down to me and was always encouraging. (0496)
    4. Physical appearance has a lot to do with my attraction towards the opposite sex, but personality is what either makes or breaks it for me. I like guys who are tall, tan, and buff, but that does not mean that I am not frequently attracted to a guy who is only one of these things or even none of them. I think there are many different types of beauty and I have been attracted to men of all races. I like guys who are sweet and caring towards others and who are also confident and outgoing. I like guys who are friendly and are not afraid to start conversations or say hi to people even if they do not know them well. I like guys who go out of their way to be nice to people and who don’t feel like they have to prove themselves or show off to their friends. For me to be really attracted to a guy, he has to be confident and secure with himself and be his own person and also make an effort to get to know me and talk to me. One guy I liked would always come up and hug me, even if he was with his friends, he would take time to hug me and ask me about my day and that made me feel special and like him more because he singled me out and took time to show he cared, even if it was brief because he was running late to class. (38750)
    4. Some of the few physical characteristics that men possess which I am attracted to are: tallness, muscular (a fit man), eyes, broad shoulders, clear skin, and nice teeth. As far as personality traits, I am attracted to someone who shows that they are kind, genuine, and caring. Also, I am typically attracted to men who are the same ethnicity and social status as me. (3892)
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    4. The first thing I desire about a guy is their sense of humor and playfulness. But the first thing I notice is their physical attractiveness. I have a type, tall, tan, and athletic looking with self-confidence and with a great head on their shoulders (its like finding a unicorn). I love high energy and someone who is always doing something. I am attracted to the chase of the guy, if they are always in motion and laughing and they flirt but not too much. (3584)
    #5. In your opinion, what are the strengths and weaknesses of the opposite sex?
    5. Some strengths are that men are stereotypically actually physically strong. They also know how to take charge and lead a group. However, when they lead a group, they have to do it their way because they know best, and don’t really like to listen to comments or critique. Think of the stereotypical “we’re lost and need to ask for directions” scenario. And again, men aren’t in touch with their or others’ emotions. (0496)
    5. Strengths: protecting, strong, drivenWeaknesses: emotional understanding and availability/maturity, ego (1569)
    5. In my opinion, men’s strengths are being straightforward, protective, and able to simplify things. Their weaknesses appear to be difficulty reading emotions and difficulty expressing their own emotions. (8778) 5. I think some of the biggest strengths of the opposite sex are the ability to move past little problems or inconveniences quickly and their ability to admit their anger or frustration. Often times when girls are angry with each other they tend to be passive aggressive towards one another or they just don’t speak to each other and hold onto a grudge. Men on the other hand tend to air their problems out in the open without filtering out their feelings. Their ability to be honest about their anger probably allows them to move past those small bumps in the road faster than girls. A weakness I think they have is that they aren’t as willing as girls to admit their sadness or confusion. I think this might stem from their need to maintain a hyper masculine façade that looks down upon showing weakness or “admitting defeat.” 1524
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    5. Strengths: strong, driven, decisive /// weakness: the fact that they think they must hide their emotions from the outside world and their relentless stubbornness. (3584)
    #6. Can you think of any instances in which you have personally been treated unfairly by the opposite sex? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    6. The last time I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex was when I was inappropriately touched on the bus. (0496)
    6. I was treated unfairly in high school when I was in an Easter play for my youth group and we were rehearsing with our youth director and the priest came to watch and he told me I could not play my part because it was a male part and "no one would believe I was a man", so he gave it to a guy and I had to settle for not having a speaking part simply because I was a girl. (38750
    6. I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex when I was playing powder-puff football for the school. The guys from the football team were coaching our team, and the girls wanted to scrimmage against the guys for practice, but the guys insisted that it wouldn’t be fair because they were too good for us and we wouldn’t get very fair. I ended up scoring a touchdown on them. (2418)
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    6. I dated a boy for 5 years and at the very end he cheated on me with my best friend and the girl who outwardly disliked me. After I found out he ignored all my attempts to understand went wrong and after 5 months of me feeling like it was all my fault he finally decided to talk to me and then proceeded to try and get back together. He thought that because we were both going through a difficult time that he had the go-ahead to act out and do what he wanted because he wasn’t in control. (3584)
    #7. Can you think of any instances in which you have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex, simply because of your (or their) gender? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    7. Men sometimes yell compliments at me or attempt to start conversations with me for the sake of getting my number. In a less overtly creepy way, men will sometimes open the door for me. (0496)
    7. Yes, I believe that women are given preferential treatment especially in night social-settings. Women are let into parties and bars much more frequently that men, and once inside they are given preferential treatment often by being bought drinks, etc. (1569)
    7. It is hard to think of an instance when I have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex because of my gender as a woman. A possible example could be when I visit my grandparents and my grandpa puts my brother to work doing labor in his backyard and allows me to relax. However, while this was nice, this could be taken as my grandpa not believing I am as capable as my brother. (8778)
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    1. 7. Because I am a female, whenever I go out on a date, everything is paid for, and I never touch a door handle, and I usually make the decisions as to what I want to do or how long to stay, etc.
    #8. Describe an instance, or instances, when you have been rejected by someone of the opposite sex to whom you were attracted. How did they reject you? Was their behavior inconsiderate, rude or insensitive? How did it make you feel? How might they have done it in a more considerate way?
    8. I’ve never been rejected before, but I have rejected someone before so maybe I’ll talk about that instead. He kept texting me and following me around in person to ask me to hang out with him even though I wasn’t interested. When we met in person I would just give an excuse about how I was busy and had to go and thus couldn’t hang out with him, and with texts I would do the same thing but eventually I would just ignore them. If I or any of my friends saw him coming in our direction, I would literally dive under tables so he wouldn’t see me. (0496)
    8. I had been talking to this guy for two months when he ghosted me. He cut off all contact and completely stopped talking to me and when I sent him an angry drunken text a few months later describing how I had been hurt and I would have appreciated if he had had the guts to just tell me he didn't want to see me anymore. He didn't reply, but he has watched every single one of my snapchat stories since he ghosted me and continues to like my pictures on Instagram. I don't get it and at this point I think it's childish and rude since I feel like he's trolling me because there's no other logical explanation for it. (38750)
    8. In middle school I had a crush on a guy who had a crush on my best friend. He rejected me indirectly by always paying constant attention to her when she was around and making me feel invisible. I knew he didn't mean to, but it was definitely somewhat insensitive. I think being rejected is always hard because its nothing but personal, so it hurts like crazy. I guess he could have tried to be considerate or a little more discrete about his feelings for her when I was around (1569)
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    #9. Situation 1: The date has been going very well and you feel very physically attracted to this person. How would you influence this person to become physically intimate, and to go as far sexually as you wanted to go?
    9. It would be time to turn up the flirts. Sometimes some men aren’t as forward as the stereotype, so in addition to flirting I might have to make the first move when the time is right. Since we haven’t really been physically intimate before this date I would probably only go as far as a kiss this time. (0496)
    9. If I was on a date with this person again, I would try to kiss him. Depending on what we were doing on the date what influence when and how I would try to initiate this. i think I would wait for a moment when we were alone or had some privacy and stare into their eyes and then close mine and move my head towards him to kiss him. If we were in a car this would probably be easy to do when he was about to drop me off at home. If this went well and the kissing was reciprocated, I would probably start unbuttoning his shirt or tugging at it to see if he wanted to go further, and judging from his response, take it farther or stop there. (38750)
    9. I would probably hold his hand or give him a kiss on the cheek at some point throughout the date to signal that I was interested physically to ensure that that was a clear aspect of the relationship and that we were on the same page. later I would suggest that we go back to one of our places and see how he responds, and then probably talk to him about how I felt about him as an explanation for me desire or trust to be intimate for him (1569)
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    9. I like to think I am a fairly blunt person so in a scenario like this I would ask the guy why don’t you just kiss me already? The worst he can say is no and, my ego might be a little bruised; I will survive and be able to move on instead of playing a guessing game. Assuming that goes well and gauging how far I wasn’t the level of physical intimacy to go I would also be vocal in telling them where I felt the line should be drawn at that time. (3584).
    #10. Situation 2: The date has been going well, but you do not feel particularly physically attracted by this person. However, you can tell that this person is really turned on by you. Still, you know you're not interested in physical intimacy, and/or the subsequent involvement or commitment that might follow. How would you influence this person to avoid becoming sexual?
    10. Say things like, “It’s cool that we’re friends and can just hang like this” and stuff like that. Body language would be closed off and away, less eye contact, shrugging away from touch. If worse comes to worse I might have to be explicit and just tell the person I’m not attracted to them to their face if they’re too oblivious. I’d rather not do this because stereotypically, men do not take rejection well. (0496)
    10. I would try to create distance between me and this person. If they stepped closer to me, I would back up and slowly step backwards. However, I am really bad at this and if someone I don't want to kisses me, I will kiss them back because I would feel too awkward to say no because I wouldn't want to hurt their feelings. (38750)
    10. I would make it clear that I wanted to remain in public places to avoid any further intimacy (such as not wanted to go back to either of our places, or somewhere where I knew that we would be alone together) and then just try to be clear and emphasize my enjoyment in spending time with him and talking to him such that there is an emphasis away from the physical aspects of our relationship. (1569)
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    #11. In general, it seems that the opposite sex has a tendency to become "insanely" jealous when...
    11. You talk to people of the other sex (0496)
    11. ... he see's another man flirting with his girl (1569)
    …he watches you pay more attention to another guy than to him. (8778)
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    11) I hang out with my guy friends for about the same or more amount of time I spend with them. (3584).
    #12. When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex...
    12. Is sometimes not as forward as the stereotype, but if we were going with the stereotypical “man’s man,” then they can move just way too fast without considering the woman’s feelings (0469)
    12. wants the process to move a lot faster than the woman wants it. (6553)
    12. ...should be more verbal when asking the woman what is ok. (8778)
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    12. Will make the first move and be more upfront and bold about initiating sex (3584).
    #13. The opposite sex seems clueless about...
    13. Emotions, non-explicit communicative cues (0496)
    13. our emotions and why we like to communicate more about them. (6553)
    13. …connecting emotional cues to their cause (8778).
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    13. Women want to be surprised with flowers every now and again! (3584).
    #14. Being romantic is something that the opposite sex...
    14. Does not care about (0496)
    14. ... should enjoy and want to bring about and hopefully take part in it (1569)
    14. …should enjoy for both themselves and their partner. (8778)
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    14. can be surprisingly great at (3584)
    #15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by...
    15. “If you love me you would suck my dick” (0496)
    #15....seeing how they react when another man is flirting with them. (1333)15. introducing her to his family. (6553)
    15. …introducing them to friends and family or inviting them to travel or go on vacation with their family. (8778)
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    15. Introducing you to their friends, introducing you their parents/family and by going on vacation with them to see how well you work together alone (3584).
    #16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to...
    16. They just don't, stereotypically
    16. career or job position. Men always want to make more money than women. (6553)
    16. …issues that regard the woman’s body, such as abortion. (8778)
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    16. Women having to have the ability to cook and clean, which is more important than having a career of their own (3584)
    #17. Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex...
    17. Is more guilty of than they realize (0496)
    17. struggles with and have trouble controlling. (6553).
    17. …may have trouble controlling if there is not trust in the relationship. (8778)
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    17. Definitely can have issues with. Especially when friendly conversations with other men or being out in social settings. Making sure that everyone around knows that you are "their woman", which is a total turnoff (3584).
    #18. When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex...
    18.Does not put in the effort, usually. And when they attempt to, it’s usually just hair gel and Axe body spray. (0496)
    18. values it fairly highly in mate selection (1569)
    18. …finds it important and often tries to match it with their own. (8778)
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    18. Men value the physical attractiveness of women over anything else, beauty over brains. Men have a desirable physical appearance when they are strong, tall, with a prominent jaw line and are fit. (3584).
    #19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex...
    19. Values quite a bit, but for themselves. I don’t think men particularly care if their prospective partners have money and status, but of course that’s a bonus. (0496)
    19. ...are impressed by, but also intimidated by (1569)
    19. …appreciate and try to match with their own status (8778)
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    19. Value for their future. They desire/are driven by a lot of money and a high social status (3584).
    #20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex...
    20. Judge appearances harshly or recount sexual exploits in an attempt to impress their bros. (0496)
    20. ...fails to treat me with respect and to see me for the individual that I am, no matter the situation (1569)
    20. …focuses solely on physical intimacy and appearance, rather than regarding me for the whole person that I am and appreciating what else I have to offer. (8778)
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    20. Puts me in a category as if because i am a woman i must be dumb or not as smart as them (3584).
    #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when...
    21. They are kind and respectful. (0496)
    21. ... they see and value the positive qualities that I possess and we can mutually enjoy each othesr company (1569)
    21. …they understand me as a whole and appreciate my strengths and are not bothered by my weaknesses. (8778)
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  1. page Homework 1men edited ... I have had several puzzling encounters with the opposite sex but most of them can be understoo…
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    I have had several puzzling encounters with the opposite sex but most of them can be understood through differences in biology/ chemistry/ psychology. One thing that I encounter often with females is expressing rudeness/avoidance to me only to find out later that they were actually interested and wanted to talk to me. One idea that came up in the first class was women expecting men to be able to read their minds, but when a person’s body language demonstrates complete disinterest then only the most hard-headed or outspoken men will approach them. (8832)
    In my last relationship, which lasted two years of college, my ex would sometimes get extremely emotionally unstable for no reason. What I find incomprehensible about women is their seemingly random emotional extremes. Small meaningless actions can spark strong responses that seem irrational to men. (2908)
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    gender roles..)
    Question 1. One situation in particular that always confuses me is when I hear girls say that they like “bad boys.” It has always baffled me that girls want a guy who is either ‘player,’ rude, cocky, disrespectful, and overly aggressive. In many cases when girls end up in relationships with these types of guys, they usually suffer and regret being in the relationship. It also confuses me when girls say, “nice guys finish last,” because I don’t understand why being with a nice guy would be a bad thing. I’m sure there is something alluring about a “bad boy,” but I would think that would only be in a sexual context. When it comes to long-term relationship, I don’t understand why it would be smart to waste your time with a guy who doesn’t seem to treat anybody with decency or respect. (4788)

    #2. In general, what do you like about the opposite sex? What do you dislike? Again, think of the opposite sex in general, as they actually are, not how you might like them to be different.
    #2. I like that they pay attention to their looks and are therefore pleasing to look at. This makes it fun for me to talk to/interact with them and conveys the message that they want males to feel attracted/drawn to them, since they pay attention to their looks mainly for males (at least that is what I think the main reason behind that is), and as most people, male or female, would agree, feeling wanted is a great feeling. I also like that females tend to seem like they enjoy being unassertive when it comes to their interactions with males (and this is most probably a product of society and how females and males are raised). I dislike that females tend to be more dramatic compared to males in the sense that a behavior or a pattern of behavior that might not even occur to a male to be offensive or disrespectful in any way can be seen (or not truly perceived that way but held) by a female as extremely offensive or disrespectful. This often times lead to the female accusing the male of being “emotionally inept”, insensitive, or deficiencies of that nature, whereas the male might view the bigger part of the problem to lie with the female and her extreme (seemingly to the male) emotional sensitivity (I think there definitely is a biological component to such differences in emotional intensities). I also do not like that females gossip (publicly or privately) more than males do. It turns into belittling others for their own pleasure and is an example “schadenfreude”. (5966)
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    Something I like about females is how goofy and happy they act around their closest friends (usually females). Whereas men usually chat or do activities, women girls act extremely silly and entertain each other seemlessly for hours. I also like how they share everything with these close friends where men are more solitary. (8832)
    I like that women are beautiful, gentle, empathetic, and passive. I dislike when women can be unstable, moody, judgmental, and indirect when dealing with conflicts. (2908)
    Question 2. In my experience, I’ve found females to be caring, inclusive, open-minded, thoughtful, expressive, and funny individuals. In my opinion, these qualities are what make a really good friend. When it comes to friendship, you want someone who will genuinely care about your well-being, be open-minded enough to allow you to be your authentic self, and be communicative of their feelings. I believe girls tend to bring these elements to friendships more often than boys. Despite having said this, girls can also be vindictive and overly passive. As a friend, you don’t want to surround yourself with someone who will hold things against you. It can also be frustrating to have a friend who can never stand up for themselves or their opinions. (4788)
    #3. What is the one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about your own sex?
    #3. That we are expected and in some cases pressured by them to care about certain things, and doing so may sometimes feel like a task rather than being a genuine and natural reaction that involves real emotions and, therefore, does not have much value and in many cases is not worth the effort. (5966)
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    3. The one thing that the opposite sex most misunderstands about my own sex is that males are not as simple as we are portrayed. We act simple because it is a desirable trait as dictated by females. If there were no motivation to be simple, males would act real and more complicated. (2691)
    1. I think the biggest misconception about males is the fact that we are simple or dumb. While males have been taught from an early age to not express emotions, they still reside in the men. The generalize outward appearance of males is known to be messy, lazy and straight forward. This perception undercuts the male capacity to connect.
    Question 3. One of the biggest misconceptions that girls tend to believe about boys is that they aren’t emotional. Contrary to popular belief, men feel emotions just as much as women. Boys tend to conceal their emotions due to societal pressure to be ‘macho.’ If a guy is caught crying, panicking, or even being overly happy he is instantly labeled as girly or weird. Men are taught to always keep it together but as a human being, this seems impossible. (4788)
    #4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, etc.?
    #4. Because I was already very attracted to that person any characteristic of that person that I thought about seemed captivating. But looking back, I can say that it was primarily her looks (i.e. face and physique) and secondarily her seeming friendliness and openness towards me (the fact that she made me feel like I was able to entertain her more effectively than other males). She had a very kind personality but could also be surprising and fun on occasion. She also seemed to have a lot of friends, which I thought would be indicative of her desirability. (5966)
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    I first started to become interested in women during middle school. It was definitely physical attraction that caused the interest. (2908)
    4.If I am looking for a casual hookup then I will be more influenced by the woman’s physical appearance. In general, I get really attracted to a woman’s personality. For example, music is a major deal breaker. The woman can be Aphrodite herself but if she listens to Justin Bieber or some other pop-y trash, then I will not pursue a relationship. Personality is way more important than physical appearance. I never understood why our society puts so much pressure on such a constantly changing quality like physical appearance. It is almost as if there are people benefitting from other people’s forced insecurities. (2691)
    Question 4. I would think that the most attractive quality of opposite sex would be femininity. Although females have various amounts of ‘femininity’ depending on the individual, more often than not, that is how they get a guys attention. If men wanted a person who was exactly like them, they would date each other (and they do sometimes). Some feminine qualities are being caring, expressive, nurturing, and gentle. A lot of guys would agree that these are qualities they would like for their companions. (4788)
    #5. In your opinion, what are the strengths and weaknesses of the opposite sex?
    #5. That they are more empathic than males is a very important quality in a world where EQ is progressively considered to be more important than IQ. Also tied to this quality they can be more supportive of each other compared the males. Their biggest weakness, however, is that they are easily affected emotionally. Rationality is not always their strong suit. (5966)
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    5. The strengths of the opposite sex are the ability to create and care for babies, be more compassionate, and look better in a dress. The weaknesses of the opposite sex are sporadic emotions, easily manipulated/influenced, and fickle. (2691)
    Question 5. Females tend to have a major disadvantage when it come to their sex from a contextual standpoint. Despite living in a patriarchal society, women have great strength, intellect, and perseverance. Having said that, being the disadvantaged sex can also lead to women being insecure, passive, and complacent. (4788)
    #6. Can you think of any instances in which you have personally been treated unfairly by the opposite sex? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    #6. I have been criticized for not showing enough appreciation for certain deeds that were being done for me. However, I thought that I was being appreciative and was actually making an effort to be extra kind towards her but that intention apparently did not come across as I thought it would. (5966)
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    Recently I was helping my girlfriend move from her apartment into her house. I don’t remember the exact reason, but she got mad at me in the moment and later confessed how irrational it was (2908)
    6. I was once in a group where I was the only male. The project was to come up with an organization to help better their public image. I tried to voice my opinions on which organization to choose but I was told that I was probably going to wait for the last minute to do it so I shouldn’t have a say in the topic. I did not care enough to make a big deal about it but it sucks that when a sex has the majority, abuse of power tends to follow. Instead of my idea, the Golden Globes, we did Abercrombie & Fitch. (2691)
    Question 6. I can’t really think of instances in which I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex. (4788)
    #7. Can you think of any instances in which you have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex, simply because of your (or their) gender? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    #7. There were instances where there were implicit competitions in social situations between my female friends for the companionship of the opposite sex, which sometimes lead them to act nicer towards my male friends or me than they act towards each other. (5966)
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    Its hard to name a specific experience, but I do feel like I’ve been treated particularly well by women in many instances. For example, my girlfriend’s house mates are all amazing and have treated me well and been nurturing. (2908)
    7. It can be pretty easy to spot when a female is attracted. Most of my experience of being treated particularly well has been because of attraction. One example is when my best friend treated me better than usual. She wanted to give me massages and asked me how I was ten times more than she usually would. I am sure she would have done the same to any other guy she is attracted to. Also when a girl wants help , she will be an absolute angel. (2691)
    Question 7. Females make extremely good companions and friends. All throughout my life I have gravitated towards females because they tend to be more open-minded and accepting. Some of my first friends from elementary have been girls, and they were the first to include me in their activities without judgment. (4788)
    #8. Describe an instance, or instances, when you have been rejected by someone of the opposite sex to whom you were attracted. How did they reject you? Was their behavior inconsiderate, rude or insensitive? How did it make you feel? How might they have done it in a more considerate way?
    #8. They have let me know right off the bat that they were not interested. I thought at the time that it was inconsiderate and to some extent insensitive to not at least make the effort to offer a possibly more comforting response by saying that she does not want to risk our preexisting friendship or just by offering any rational explanation (which would’ve helped me with the sadness that came from feeling inadequate as I was also sad simply because I was rejected). It made me feel like my request was not realistic and out of the question, which made me feel inferior and very insecure. (5966)
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    Once I was bored at a bar and simply asked a girl for her name to which she gave me a disgusted look and turned around on her phone. While I believe this behavior was very rude, I also understand how irritating it might be constantly getting hit on when you are just trying to have fun. Many men approach women at bars/clubs simply because they are interested in sex which many women know. Men (especially when drunk) may also become insulting or offensive upon being rejected which makes this a difficult question to answer. I believe honesty is the best policy in this case and that by nicely communicating a lack of interest is the best solution. (8832)
    8. I had a longtime elementary school crush and decided to try my luck freshman year of high school. We were friends at the time and nothing more. I asked her out to a Friday football game but she politely rejected me. It was almost like a sorry rather than a rejection, which is not much better. I felt stupid for waiting till high school just to be rejected. Personally, if she told me why she did not want to go out then I would have felt better but I believe she rejected me as nicely as possible. (2691)
    Question 8. I believe females feel the need to be more cutting with their rejections. This is due to the fact that men tend to be persistent and not really take ‘no,’ as an answer. (4788)
    Imagine that you have known someone of the opposite sex for about a month. You have dated this person several times, but so far there hasn't been any kind of physical intimacy (holding hands, kissing, etc.) between the two of you. Now, you are out on a date with this person again.
    How would you try to influence this person in each of the following
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    There are many variables that could explain the lack of intimacy but the main thing I would do is communicate my interest in intimacy through body language or touch. I would also try to make my appearance as attractive as possible to ensure mutual attraction. (8832)
    9. According to the scenario, it would be fairly simple to achieve physical intimacy. I would be prepared in the sense that I would plan a romantic setting within the date, preferably someplace with some privacy. The romantic setting would include some generic stuff like chocolates, roses, and candles. The setting should also include some items of personal significance to the woman such as a favorite viewpoint, song, or color. Then I would subtly hint to a surprise. Once at the surprising romantic setting, simply turn on the Barry White and Marvin Gaye (if I can only have one song then “besame mucho” because that song is an instant babymaker). The rest is history as we figure how deep our love is. (2691)
    Question 9. I would just be forthcoming about my intentions (4788).
    #10. Situation 2: The date has been going well, but you do not feel particularly physically attracted by this person. However, you can tell that this person is really turned on by you. Still, you know you're not interested in physical intimacy, and/or the subsequent involvement or commitment that might follow. How would you influence this person to avoid becoming sexual?
    #10. I would act in an honest manner and hope that she picks up the signals. If she does not, I would tell her that I am not interested in anything physical and make sure that I come out with it in the kindest and most supportive possible way to not hurt her (although trying to make sure she does not feel offended can sometimes take a lot of effort especially in such an awkward situation). (5966)
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    It's not that complicated- I just wouldn't initiate or make advances where I didn't want them. If she still doesn't pick up the signals and starts initiating intimacy physically against my will I would just stop her. (8832)
    10. According to the scenario, it would be fairly simple to avoid physical intimacy. If I have been dating this person for a month then I should know what this person does not like. One option would be to express all the things she dislikes in the world. If by some chance, she interprets this as a joke or game I would resort to the old-fashioned way of telling her I am not interested. If that does not work then I will enter full “douchebag” mode. If you are familiar with the American Comedy, The Office, there is an episode where Michael Scott changes his personality once he realizes he is in a date. I would simply channel the Michael Scott that Michael Scott channeled in that episode to disgust my way out of physical intimacy and hope for the best (or worst in her case). (2691)
    Question 10. I would politely tell her that I am not interested in participating in any thing related to sexuality. (4788)
    SENTENCE COMPLETION
    For each of the following sentence fragments, complete the sentence, and, if you wish, add a few more sentences to complete your thought. Do not include the sentence stem in your response--only your answer to it.
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    11. other females show interest in you (8832)
    11. I spend time with people of the opposite sex (2691)
    Question 11. … they compare themselves with others that they view as smarter, prettier, richer, etc. (4788)
    #12. When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex...
    #12. Should make it clear what they want so that the male can decide to initiate or not initiate sexuality. (5966)
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    12. Does a terrible job at expressing interest making it very hard for us to act. (8832)
    12. Waits for the male to make the first move. (2691)
    Question 12. … tends to wait for males to make the first move. (4788)
    #13. The opposite sex seems clueless about...
    #13. How much males think and talk about sex. (5966)
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    14. How often guys are constantly checking them out when wearing yoga pants (8832)
    13. How manipulative males can be (2691)
    Question 13. … sports. (4788)
    #14. Being romantic is something that the opposite sex...
    #14. Puts way too much emphasis on. (5966)
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    14. Idealize/ prioritize over of most other aspects. I hate "The Bachelor" tv show so much (8832)
    14. desires and deserves (2691)
    Question 14. … enjoys. (4788)
    #15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by...
    #15. Finding something to get mad about when there is no good reason just to see that their boyfriend can react appropriately and make everything right for them (which sometimes is not the case and leads to argument/s). (5966)
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    15. See how far out of our way we will go for them. (8832)
    15. Emotionally, physically, and psychologically torturing the male (2691)
    Questions 15. … asking them questions about things they think they should know. (4788)
    #16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to...
    #16. Things like being a gentleman (e.g. paying for the first date, doing small tasks etcetera). It seems like females usually welcome any inequality that work in their favor, which I cannot say I really blame them for because there are many more that benefit males. (5966)
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    16. Them getting special treatment at parties/clubs for simply being a girl. (8832)
    16. physical work (2691)
    Question 16. … offering to pay on behalf of their partner. (4788)
    #17. Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex...
    #17. Has too much of (becoming jealous when there is not really anything to get jealous about can sometimes irritate males, and rightly so). (5966)
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    17. Possibly do more than males (8832)
    17. Expresses in large amounts with constant cuddling, public affection, and personal competitiveness. By personal competitiveness, I am saying how if my girlfriend sees me laughing with another girl my girlfriend will make sure to laugh at everything I say. (2691)
    Question 17. … thinks is sexy, but then realize is crazy! (4788)
    #18. When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex...
    #18. Shows less interest than the male. (5966)
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    18. Cares more about confidence/personality in a mate than men do (8832)
    18. Is far more attractive and favors an athletic build for males (2691)
    Question 18. … worries too much about when it comes to themselves. (4788)
    #19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex...
    #19. Aim to reach primarily by marrying into (the easier way), and only secondarily by working for. It is also true that it takes more effort on their part compared to men’s to achieve similar levels of money and status. (5966)
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    19. Desire in a mate more than man do (8832)
    19. are influenced by (2691)
    Question 19. … cares about just as much as males. (4788)
    #20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex...
    #20. Makes me feel like I am “out of her league”. (5966)
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    20. Get hurt by shitty men on different occasions which affects their general perspective of males (8832)
    20. lies (2691)
    Question 20. … excludes me. (4788)
    #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when...
    #21. I feel desired and attractive. (5966)
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    21. They are empowered and act against female social norms (8832)
    21. We are able to just be with each other and be happy (2691)
    Question 21. … they are empowered. (4788)
    OLD -- from previous classes
    RESPONSES OF MEN FROM THE 2015 and 2014 CLASSES:
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  2. page Homework1 edited ... 3. One thing males most misunderstand about females is that we are too emotional. And, if we a…
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    3. One thing males most misunderstand about females is that we are too emotional. And, if we are emotional about something, that it’s simply because of our hormones or the fact that we are women. It almost seems as though they take away the depth of the subject matter we are emotional about and inly attribute it to our sex. (8635)
    3. Often time's men forget that women are also able to separate emotions from physical attraction. It is not just males who are able to distinguish physical attraction and emotional attraction. A common misconception is that every girl is looking for a relationship when in reality women are just as capable and actually do participate in the hook up culture (3584).
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    haven’t developed.
    #4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, etc.?
    4. Physical appearance has a lot to do with my attraction towards the opposite sex, but personality is what either makes or breaks it for me. I like guys who are tall, tan, and buff, but that does not mean that I am not frequently attracted to a guy who is only one of these things or even none of them. I think there are many different types of beauty and I have been attracted to men of all races. I like guys who are sweet and caring towards others and who are also confident and outgoing. I like guys who are friendly and are not afraid to start conversations or say hi to people even if they do not know them well. I like guys who go out of their way to be nice to people and who don’t feel like they have to prove themselves or show off to their friends. For me to be really attracted to a guy, he has to be confident and secure with himself and be his own person and also make an effort to get to know me and talk to me. One guy I liked would always come up and hug me, even if he was with his friends, he would take time to hug me and ask me about my day and that made me feel special and like him more because he singled me out and took time to show he cared, even if it was brief because he was running late to class. (38750)
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    One thing I find particularly puzzling about the opposite sex is their unwillingness to admit that they need help or that they are wrong. For example, my father thinks he can fix anything when in reality, he can’t. Instead of calling a specialist to fix our plumbing, he tried to do it himself until he made the situation so bad that he had no choice but to call an actual plumber. My family has enough money to hire a plumber, so this was not a matter of finances. He even got mad when my mom and I told tell him just to call someone so he wouldn’t have to do it himself. Even after he broke our piping, my father still wouldn’t admit that he should have just left our plumbing alone in the first place. 4531
    1- Situations that confound me deeply with the opposite sex is every time that I need to prevent, presence or deal with the consequences of boys/men getting into fights. I have always found it absolutely bewildering how easily men become aggressive and get into fights. What I found particularly puzzling was their (and I speak in plural terms as this has happened multiple times) inability to think clearly and separate themselves from the situation. They act as if it were their duty to participate in fights if the situation calls/or doesn't call for it. (9140)
    1. Speaking non-romantically and romantically, I have had many of instances when I was deeply perplexed about the other sex. I have many guy friends where I have deep conversations with them and it would be great. It’s all open, nothing held back, just raw information. It is refreshing when speaking with them because they will tell you exactly how it is without beating around the bush, about anything. When speaking romantically, I feel like it is completely the opposite. I don’t get direct answers and they tend to hold things back when talking. They’re all boys, but their behaviors change depending on the relationship status. I don’t think it is a function a guy’s gender, but maybe just varies on person to person. (0018)
    I find it incredibly puzzling when a guy that should know me very well considering how long we have been dating still fails to pick up on the cues that tell him something is bothering me. Me having to tell him what is wrong just angers me even further because by now he should know me front and back and know what pushes my buttons and what makes me happy. Failing to recognize patterns in my emotions and his behavior is incredibly puzzling for me because as a girl I pick up on the smallest details and fluctuations in a guy’s demeanor, tone, etc…yet the fact that a guy I’ve been dating for for months is so oblivious is incredibly puzzling. It makes me question if he purposefully tries to dodge the situation and look oblivious to avoid confrontation and a fight, or if whenever similar arguments occur—the things I say go in one ear and out the other and he doesn’t actually take into consideration what I’m saying and change his behavior for the future.
    #2. In general, what do you like about the opposite sex? What do you dislike? Again, think of the opposite sex in general, as they actually are, not how you might like them to be different
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    2. I like that men are more laid back and do not seem to take situations or themselves too
    seriously. Instead of overthinking or overanalyzing a situation or someone else’s actions, guys tend to take things at face value. For instance, if a guy’s friend arrives to lunch late, he may simply ask his friend why he was late or not even say anything at all. He would not think about what this action may indicate about their friendship or if his friend is hiding something from him or lying. I dislike that men are more impulsive and willing to do dangerous things to protect their reputations or impress others. For instance, when a guy’s friends dare him to do something reckless, he will do it and try not to show any feelings of apprehension. A guy would rather risk his personal safety that to have his bravery or strength questioned. (7413)
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    littlest inconveniences.
    2. Aforementioned, I said some guys are direct and will tell you how it is without beating around the bush. I like that because it is refreshing. Guys are also not very dramatic and they are very “chill.” Some, if not most, guys have a very witty and dry sense of humor, and that is something I like. Also, guys have the tendency to be more ‘protective’ and that is something that I like too. Some things that I don’t like about guys is how gross/messy they can be, but this can be the same for girls. Some guys are also not very observant in areas we want them to be. Guys overcompensate for a lot, and are often hypersexual. These are things that I don’t like about the opposite sex. (0018)

    In general the things that I dislike about men are that they can be stubborn and always feel the need to be right. This can make any debate or argument difficult because they are stuck in their own ways and refuse to take into consideration other peoples opinions or advice because of their own stubbornness or ego. I also don’t like that men can be really messy and sloppy. I don’t like that men are so clueless about women’s emotions because it seems that unless we explicitly tell them exactly what is wrong they cannot pick up on the cues telling them that something is wrong. And even so, when you do explain what is bothering you—they still can be entirely clueless and not recognize why it’s a problem or just don’t want to put in the effort to understand. I don’t like that in general men do not have a filter for what they are saying and can be incredibly inappropriate and vulgar—saying things in front of girls and even their girlfriend that is crude and makes girls feel uncomfortable.
    I like the freedom in which men seem to live. Most seem relatively uninhibited and unapologetic about the manner in which they live their lives. I also admire their lack of emotional aggression — in my experience, men don’t often elicit drama or hold grudges against others. However, this unapologetic aspect of men’s personality may also turn into excessive stubbornness and unwillingness to admit to being wrong. (9166)
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    3. The male species misunderstands most about females would have to be our thought process when we expect males to know what we are thinking and feeling. I try to think about it from their perspective and take into consideration with how simple their thinking is and how little drama they like to deal with. If girls are always silent about an issue, there would be no way for a guy to read your mind and assume that you are upset about something. (9097)
    3) One thing that men misunderstand about women is our “strength”. Men perceive us as weak because we express our emotions and are more sensitive, but we actually embody a lot of strength because of the societal obstacles that we have to overcome in our everyday lives. Even if we aren’t aware of it, we are constantly overcoming objectifications and assumptions regarding our abilities. Constantly having to prove our worthiness requires a strength that men haven’t developed. (9634)
    3. I think that there are many things that guys don’t understand about girls, but I think that one thing is that guys don’t understand how sensitive girls can be. They sometimes don’t think through about what they’re saying and how it can affect the person they are talking to. Guys can be insensitive about the subject they are talking about and doesn’t understand the level of sensitivity that needs to be put into certain things. Girls don’t have the same humor as guys and definitely don’t process information the same way, and often times, this could lead to guys thinking girls are ‘too sensitive’ or ‘emotional.’ (0018)
    #4. Think about a time when you found yourself particularly attracted to someone of the opposite sex. What characteristics of that person do you think attracted you? What was the most important factor that attracted you to this person, e.g., physical appearance, personality traits, self-confidence, social status, friendly gestures toward you, etc.?
    What most attracts me to men is if they are ambitious and motivated, which you can tell by the their job status, if they own a car, how the talk about their passions, etc. I also find a balanced confidence and good humor to be attractive. Lastly, I think it’s very attractive when men take pride in the way the look, like if they have good teeth, combed hair, a good outfit, etc. And then I obviously find other physical traits to be attractive such as being taller than me and things like that. (7407)
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    #5. Some of the strengths of men include their ability to make decisions faster, usually in the context of helping other people. I find women tend to overthink things or even cues on body language or verbal language in general. A weakness of theirs, however, is their lacking in empathy and sometimes even engagement on other people’s lives. This is definitely a weakness because a strong connection depends on these aspects (0531).
    4) When I am particularly attracted to a man, it is usually because of his physical characteristics and personality traits. I am drawn to men who are taller than me with dark hair and handsome features. I also like it when they appear healthy and fit because they then carry themselves well, but obvious muscles can be a turn off because that implies arrogance and too much self-confidence. Regarding personality, I am drawn to a sense of humor and adventure. I will be more attracted to him if he is sarcastic and enjoys the outdoors. I admire humbleness, therefore a man would become less attractive if they talk about their societal status shortly after meeting. Once we started thinking about each other more seriously, however, societal status becomes a more attractive characteristic. Friendly gestures toward me wouldn’t make me more attracted to them because friendly gestures these days usually imply that they are only interested in you physically. (9634)
    4. I remember approaching and talking to a guy from purely physical appearance. He was extremely tall, good looking, and had tattoos. He was just a good looking guy and I think that is what attracted me to him. However, there have been times where I found someone I thought was just a friend to be attractive as well. He’s not my type, and I am not physically attracted to him, but his personality is amazing. He is extremely funny and very quick witted. He listens to what you’re saying and really gives you his full attention when talking to him. So there are a lot of different things that make guys attractive to me, whether it be their face or their personality. (0018)
    #5. In your opinion, what are the strengths and weaknesses of the opposite sex?
    A strength of men is that they are problem solvers. A weakness of men is that they don’t share feelings or emotions very much (which leads to other weaknesses and problems). (7407)
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    5. Strengths would have to be protectiveness, males instinct to become the primary breadwinner of the family, Weaknesses are that they are usually less romantic than women. (9097)
    5) In my opinion, some of the strengths of men are that they are straightforward, protective, confident and useful. Some of the weaknesses of men are that they are stubborn, narrow-minded, immature, and lack empathy. (9634)
    5. I think that one of the main strengths a guy possesses is not over-doing something. For example, they don’t over analyze things (they don’t stress about the little things that may matter to a girl). Guys are loyal, most of the time. Another strength that a guy has is that they are protective. Some of the weaknesses that I think that guys have are being too emotionless and immature. Another weakness can be their ability to pick up on social cues. (0018)
    #6. Can you think of any instances in which you have personally been treated unfairly by the opposite sex? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    1. I was treated unfairly by the opposite sex when I was playing powder-puff football for the school. The guys from the football team were coaching our team, and the girls wanted to scrimmage against the guys for practice, but the guys insisted that it wouldn’t be fair because they were too good for us and we wouldn’t get very fair. I ended up scoring a touchdown on them.
    ...
    6. I have found that generally I’ve been treated the most unfairly within my industry as a professional. Women seem to have to prove themselves more than men, whereas men are accepted until they prove themselves to be less than satisfactory. I also think it’s unfair that men are viewed as more funny than women. (3816)
    6) Men have treated me unfairly when they prioritize their needs and ignore what I may be feeling. For example, a guy I was dating didn’t want to label our relationship because he wasn’t ready. His previous relationship was dysfunctional therefore I was very patient with him, but he didn’t even consider how that made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. (9634)
    6. I don’t think that I’ve ever been directly mistreated, or treated unfairly by a guy. I feel like maybe a few of the guys I was talking to didn’t really take the relationship seriously(?) But they weren’t ever serious relationships, so I didn’t feel as if I was treated unfairly. (0018)
    #7. Can you think of any instances in which you have been treated particularly well by the opposite sex, simply because of your (or their) gender? If so, give a brief description of what happened.
    My current boyfriend has treated me especially well. Because of his protectiveness, he has been a great support system during my parents divorce and any other issues I’ve had to endure. I believe men can be really good rocks when they have to. (7407)
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    7. Because I am a female, whenever I go out on a date, everything is paid for, and I never touch a door handle, and I usually make the decisions as to what I want to do or how long to stay, etc. (2418)
    7) The majority of instances in which I have been treated particularly well by men simply because of my gender involve the party scene. Girls are let into college parties and most bars and clubs for free and don’t have to wait in the lines as long as men do. We also don’t have to pay for our own drinks because men will usually offer to buy them. (9634)
    7. I feel like going out on the weekends, girls get treated better specifically because we are girls. Girls get in for free and often get free drinks. For example, when my friends and I were in Vegas, we had a harder time getting into the clubs because there were six girls and five boys. However, later when we split up, we (the girls) were able to get in just fine, and didn’t encounter any issues. Also, I feel like girls are treated better when going on dates; most of the time, the guy will be super chivalrous, opening doors and paying for meals. However, these are things that are expected by our society of them. My family tends to treat my boy cousin better. I am not sure if this is because he is a boy (his gender) or just because he is the only boy out of 7 girl cousins. They see him as the token boy and is adored by all the aunts. (0018)
    #8. Describe an instance, or instances, when you have been rejected by someone of the opposite sex to whom you were attracted. How did they reject you? Was their behavior inconsiderate, rude or insensitive? How did it make you feel? How might they have done it in a more considerate way?
    The times I’ve been rejected by men, have nearly always been the same - they just flat out ignore me. I think for men that is their code to women that they are rejecting you. It comes across pretty rude and insensitive and could really be handled better. (7407)
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    8. When I was in middle school, I wrote this long letter to my crush that I had for a long time. I was confessing my “love” for him, and he rejected me, but not before telling/showing his friends what I had said. I felt like that was very inconsiderate and if he was going to reject me, he should have done it privately and not make a mockery out of it. It really hurt my feelings and made me not want to tell a boy that I liked him before he told me he liked me first. (2418)
    8) I was really into this guy and it was definitely obvious that I liked him. He rejected me indirectly by hooking up with my friend. This was inconsiderate and insensitive because he knew that I liked him and that she was my friend (I hadn’t told her I liked him). It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. A more considerate way of rejecting me would have been to not involve a friend of mine. (9634)
    8. In 7th grade, I had a fat crush on this boy who was in my class. I didn’t ever directly tell him that I had a crush on him, but it became known throughout my grade that I had a crush on him. I know he knew about it, and later, he just slightly avoiding me in social situations. For example, we used to all each lunch together, and he would go out of his way not to sit next to me. And later, he got a girlfriend. I don’t think that it was inconsiderate or rude, or maybe I was being blinded. But I think that he just kind of avoided me to let the crush fizzle away. In middle school, everyone gets a new crush every other week, and by him avoiding me, I felt like it was a clear message without directly saying that he didn’t like me. I was obviously devastated for a while, but then I got over it because it was just a crush. (0018)
    Imagine that you have known someone of the opposite sex for about a month. You have dated this person several times, but so far there hasn't been any kind of physical intimacy (holding hands, kissing, etc.) between the two of you. Now, you are out on a date with this person again.
    How would you try to influence this person in each of the following
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    9. If I was vibing with a guy, and he hadn’t made a move on me yet, I would have one or two thoughts: He was either not that into me, or he was too shy to make a move. In the second instance, I still have a fighting chance. Therefore, I would influence the guy to make a move by physically flirting with him like touching his shoulder or knee every time I laughed or taking the invisible piece of lint out of his hair or shirt, or making sure I made great eye-contact with him every time he spoke, and if we were walking around, I would grab his arm and link it with mine. Just making sure at every possible moment I am making physical contact with this guy. (2418)
    9) If I were trying to influence a guy to become physically intimate, I would approach the situation with signals rather than directly. These signals include smiling, laughing and flirtatious jokes. I would also occasionally touch his arm while speaking or laughing. I would not be direct because if he hasn’t made a move after going on dates for a month then it is possible that he is not interested, since guys are typically the ones to make the first move. If this goes on and really bothers me, however, I would eventually make the first move directly. (9634)
    9. Situation 1: Maybe during the date, I would make more suggestive and flirty moves, like touch his arm/leg and lean in closer to him so he knows that I see him more than a friend. From there on, I would see if he has any mutual responses towards me. If there is, then hopefully he makes moves and if there isn’t, I would probably ask if he is interested in me. I think that respect is important, so I would want to make sure that he is on the same page as me before moving any further. I wouldn’t want to make a guy feel uncomfortable by making advances towards him if he was not that interested in me. (0018)
    #10. Situation 2: The date has been going well, but you do not feel particularly physically attracted by this person. However, you can tell that this person is really turned on by you. Still, you know you're not interested in physical intimacy, and/or the subsequent involvement or commitment that might follow. How would you influence this person to avoid becoming sexual?
    10. I would just tell him that I am not interested in sex before marriage or make up some type of lie so that this person fails to have any hope of being intimate with me, In this way, I am not hurting his feelings in a direct way that will damage his ego. But if I am not flat-out honest with a guy, they just don’t ever get the hint! (2418)
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    I would start using the word “friend” a lot, like saying things like “You are such a good friend to me”. I would hint to the fact that I’m about to be getting really busy at work or school or something of that matter and the next few times he asked me out again I would have excuses as to why I couldn’t go. Hopefully he would then get the hint. (7407)
    10) If the date has been going well but I do not feel physically attracted to him, then my number one signal to avoid becoming sexual would be crossing my arms and avoiding long periods of eye contact. If he doesn’t pick up on those signals and makes a move then I would tell him that I’m not ready to be physically intimate with him yet. (9634)
    10. Situation 2: I think that I would just kind of brush off any advances that he makes. If he made more moves or talked about being intimate with me, I think that I would tell him that I wasn’t ready to get intimate with him or that I wasn’t interested in him that way, more just as a friend. I feel like in this kind of situation, being able to tell them is the most respectful thing, rather than leading him on. I think telling him that I had a great date but I am just not ready for any type of intimacy, they should respect your decision, and if they don’t then it is ultimately their loss. (0018)
    SENTENCE COMPLETION
    For each of the following sentence fragments, complete the sentence, and, if you wish, add a few more sentences to complete your thought. Do not include the sentence stem in your response--only your answer to it.
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    11. I am in a relationship with this guy and I am hanging out with my guy friends that he thinks likes me (2418)
    11) when they see another guy flirting with you and you are seemingly flirting back and having a good time. (9634)
    11. … you are talking to other people of the opposite sex. (0018)
    #12. When it comes to initiating sexuality for the first time, the opposite sex...
    can be forceful. (7407)
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    12. Is always the first one to make a move, whether or not I give him physical or verbal cues that I am ready. (2418)
    12) typically the initiator and moves too fast (9634)
    12. … is more forward and aggressive. (0018)
    #13. The opposite sex seems clueless about...
    13. the way females overthink everything they say to us
    ...
    13. How I am feeling unless I directly tell them how I feel. They cannot pick up on subtle cues at all (2418)
    13) women's emotions and how their actions affect them (9634)
    13. what women really want when it comes to relationships. (0018)
    #14. Being romantic is something that the opposite sex...
    struggles to grasp. (7407)
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    14. Feels a little wary about, unless they have conformation that being romantic is a good thing and not just something girls do. (2418)
    14) avoids unless they are truly committed to the relationship and in love (9634)
    14. ...can be good at if they really wanted to (0018)
    #15. Sometimes it seems that the opposite sex puts their boyfriend/girlfriend through a series of relationship "tests" by...
    seeing how you interact with their friends or seeing how you do with one their favorite activities (like camping). (7407)
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    15. Seeing if she hits on any of his guy friends or allows herself to be hit on by his friends or other men in person or social media, etc. (2418)
    15) having them hangout with his friends to see what they think of her (9634)
    15. … asking them to fulfill certain favors or asking them to take their relationship to the next step. (0018)
    #16. The opposite sex seems to support equality for the sexes except when it comes to...
    household duties, competing for job positions, and “who wears the pants in the relationship”. (7407)
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    16. Equal pay, equal job opportunities, STEM in schools, and hair all over the body (2418)
    16) sports and appearances (9634)
    16. ...domesticity (0018)
    #17. Possessiveness is something that the opposite sex...
    is always claiming. I’m not sure if men realize yet that women do not like to be identified as your object to own. (7407)
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    17. Does when he is very insecure and does not know how to fix himself (2418)
    17) exemplifies because they can be territorial (9634)
    17. … tends to have, and could later be dangerous. (0018)
    #18. When it comes to physical attractiveness, the opposite sex...
    can always pull that off. (7407)
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    18. Pays less attention to it than women do. Women seem to see their beauty more so than guys tend to see their handsomeness (2418)
    18) doesn't have to try as hard (9634)
    18. … tends to look at the level of attractiveness before personality. (0018)
    #19. Money and status is are things that the opposite sex...
    doesn’t care enough about. Sometimes it seems that men would be happy living in a box as long as they had sex and food. They could maybe strive for more. (7407)
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    19. Prides himself over and is the defining factor of success. (2418)
    19) feel pressure to have (9634)
    19. … value. (0018)
    #20. It hurts me most when the opposite sex..
    ignores me.
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    20. Doesn’t see that he doesn’t have to put me down because I am a woman, to make himself seem like more of a man.
    20) objectifies me (9634)
    20. ... takes you for granted/doesn’t respect you. (0018)
    #21. I feel best about the opposite sex when...
    21. …They are clear about things and are honest about personal problems. (9097)
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    21. they treat me the way I was taught by my father and my uncles, and not the way that the media wants men to treat women with disrespect. (2418)
    21) they treat me with respect and make me laugh (9634)
    21. … they appreciate you. (0018)
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