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  1. page Reactions-to-men edited ... This statement was well written and provided insight to the social construct that is masculini…
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    This statement was well written and provided insight to the social construct that is masculinity. It seems that most males struggle balancing society’s expectations of strong men who don’t feel emotion with women/partners who seek commitment through emotional expression. Additionally, I sympathize with men who wish to show their partners the emotional support that is sought, but simply don’t have the capacity because of the difference is biological make up of the brain. As Brizendine displayed, men are more likely to solve problems through logistical reasoning than they are to be sympathetic to and show emotional support for problems of their partners. Where as men wish to fix the problem, women just wish for emotional support and sympathy. The difference is seen because men and women have different brains with different hormonal influence. It seems that men are both fighting their biology and society when they are asked to connect to their own emotion. (0082)
    2. ...disturbed and/or upset you, and why?
    "I like that they pay attention to their looks and are therefore pleasing to look at. This makes it fun for me to talk to/interact with them and conveys the message that they want males to feel attracted/drawn to them, since they pay attention to their looks mainly for males (at least that is what I think the main reason behind that is), and as most people, male or female, would agree, feeling wanted is a great feeling. I also like that females tend to seem like they enjoy being unassertive when it comes to their interactions with males (and this is most probably a product of society and how females and males are raised). I dislike that females tend to be more dramatic compared to males in the sense that a behavior or a pattern of behavior that might not even occur to a male to be offensive or disrespectful in any way can be seen (or not truly perceived that way but held) by a female as extremely offensive or disrespectful. This often times lead to the female accusing the male of being “emotionally inept”, insensitive, or deficiencies of that nature, whereas the male might view the bigger part of the problem to lie with the female and her extreme (seemingly to the male) emotional sensitivity (I think there definitely is a biological component to such differences in emotional intensities). I also do not like that females gossip (publicly or privately) more than males do. It turns into belittling others for their own pleasure and is an example “schadenfreude”."
    This is comment is something that I do not believe to be true and it is upsetting because this was their answer for what they liked about females. I would hope that males would appreciate something like our personality characteristics instead. We do not wakw up everyday to get ready and look presentable just for guys to notice us or call us pretty. (7497)

    I like that they pay attention to their looks and are therefore pleasing to look at. This makes it fun for me to talk to/interact with them and conveys the message that they want males to feel attracted/drawn to them, since they pay attention to their looks mainly for males (at least that is what I think the main reason behind that is), and as most people, male or female, would agree, feeling wanted is a great feeling. I also like that females tend to seem like they enjoy being unassertive when it comes to their interactions with males (and this is most probably a product of society and how females and males are raised). I dislike that females tend to be more dramatic compared to males in the sense that a behavior or a pattern of behavior that might not even occur to a male to be offensive or disrespectful in any way can be seen (or not truly perceived that way but held) by a female as extremely offensive or disrespectful. This often times lead to the female accusing the male of being “emotionally inept”, insensitive, or deficiencies of that nature, whereas the male might view the bigger part of the problem to lie with the female and her extreme (seemingly to the male) emotional sensitivity (I think there definitely is a biological component to such differences in emotional intensities). I also do not like that females gossip (publicly or privately) more than males do. It turns into belittling others for their own pleasure and is an example “schadenfreude”.
    This statement really irritated me because it implies that women wake up and get ready every morning just to look good for men and to impress them, which is not the case. While I do agree it is nice to feel wanted, I believe it is degrading and derogatory to assume that women (and not men) base their entire appearance off what the men around them think of them. (5649)
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    I find it interesting that guys actually want to have friendships with a girl so that they can talk about their feelings, because as the person said, they grow up under the impression that they should not show their feelings. (8804)
    3. ...honestly revealed something about male perceptions, feelings or thoughts that you suspect that they generally might be very reluctant to admit to if their comments were not anonymous?
    "Females make extremely good companions and friends. All throughout my life I have gravitated towards females because they tend to be more open-minded and accepting. Some of my first friends from elementary have been girls, and they were the first to include me in their activities without judgment."
    I feel like this comment revealed something about this male which he might not be that open to admit around people. I do not think that if a male shared this with his guy friends they would react in a nice way. They might tease him and make fun of him for feeling like females are better friends to have. (7497)

    “There are several things that I like about women, however, the thing that sticks out to me the most is the effort that they put into everything they do. Women tend to put in more effort than men do when it comes to appearances, relationships, and any work or activity that they are participating in. They also have a more nurturing and caring nature than men do which makes it easier and better to go to my friends that are girls when problems arise in my life. I dislike how self-critical they can be and how judgmental they can be towards others. I also dislike how they tend to over analyze every situation and rarely listen to guys when they are trying to help them.”
    Males tend to be proud of their masculinity, and with that comes the pride they carry for their male traits. For instance, it seems as though males recognize their inability to invest in the problems of others through emotional support. But will provide any help they can through their gift of logistical reasoning. Where as most men would be proud to hold this kind of reasoning skill and not recognize that which they don’t have, this comment reveals that some males perceive and recognize the talents that women have and how they are useful. It is also nice to know that men recognize the work women put into the different aspects of their life, including appearances, relationships, work, ad other activities. Oppositely, it says something about they way women judge and criticize others if so many men are wiling to recognize this mannerism as negative. In other words, it must be a common trait in most women, and one which I haven’t recognized previously. (0082)
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    I think that this sort of situation is rather common, whether the men notice it or not. I think women often think that men can’t be trusted with taking care of details of getting something put together so women will take it into their hands to get things done. I think men are seen as being incompetent with this sort of things so women feel they need to take over. (9222)
    7. ...revealed something about how males may feel a sense of power over women, or in comparison to women?
    "I do not know of any particular strengths and weaknesses that are sex-specific. I think I read somewhere once that women have higher tolerance to pain in order to handle the pain of childbirth? I never really fact-checked that one. As far as I know, any strengths that men have come from living in a male-dominated society that subjugates women, creating weaknesses in them."
    This comment to me shows that males may feel a sene of power of women. He openly talks about how we live in a male-dominated society that subjugates women, therefore creating weakness in them. He also could not comment on any strengths that he thinks women have which to me suggests that he believes males are superior and/or women do not have any strengths. (7497)

    “1. I went on a date with a girl and at the end of the date, she asked me to drop her off at a place near her house. I was confused by this incident and it had me pondering a lot about the situation. Did she think I was a stalker? Is she self-conscious about her house? I narrowed down the possibilities to those two but I am still not sure to this day. I think it would be a function of her gender because I think females worry about their safety more than men do. I know if I were in that situation, I would definitely ask my date to drop me off at my house. Even if she was a stalker, I am confident I would be able to defend myself. I wouldn’t be too self-conscious about my house because if it somehow affected the way she viewed me, then I would know she isn’t right for me anyway. (5835)”
    This post definitely made me feel like the male who wrote it understood the power men have in compared to women. While I also think it is strange she made him drop her off away from the house, that causes me to wonder what he said to her during the date? Was he aggressive? Did he say something to make her feel threatened? The worst part is, I’m sure this guy probably did nothing and is probably a nice guy by as a woman who has also felt threatened by men, who has been sexually harassed and met guys who I would never want knowing where I live, I can’t help but automatically defend. (5759).
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  2. page Reactions-to-men edited ... “I like how open to talking they tend to be. My most emotionally deep conversations are often …
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    “I like how open to talking they tend to be. My most emotionally deep conversations are often with my friends who are girls. They are more open to really discussing how they feel and tend to be more empathetic than guys are. I do not like that, in my experience, they will not be as straight forward as my guy friends. There are times when being direct and not beating around the bush are preferred and I have not gotten that as much with the women in my life. Also, I have noticed significantly more willingness by my girl friends to engage in gossip and putting down other people in a very manipulative and sneaky way.”
    I found this statement very interesting because from my perspective, men seem to really dislike the fact that women tend to lean towards emotionally deep conversations rather than superficial insincere ones. Men like to be more straight forward and do not like to open up about their feelings, unless forced by their girlfriend. (5649)
    “There are several things that I like about women, however, the thing that sticks out to me the most is the effort that they put into everything they do. Women tend to put in more effort than men do when it comes to appearances, relationships, and any work or activity that they are participating in. They also have a more nurturing and caring nature than men do which makes it easier and better to go to my friends that are girls when problems arise in my life. I dislike how self-critical they can be and how judgmental they can be towards others. I also dislike how they tend to over analyze every situation and rarely listen to guys when they are trying to help them.”
    I found this comment surprising because I never realized myself how much harder women work when compared to men. It was nice to see that a male notices that and appreciates it. (8804)

    6. ...revealed something about how males may feel a sense of powerlessness
    in comparison to women, or how they may feel manipulated by women?
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  3. page Reactions-to-men edited ... 6. For a friends birthday we were having a party and my female friends took it upon themselves…
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    6. For a friends birthday we were having a party and my female friends took it upon themselves to plan it all take care of food and cake and stuff and told me just go get the alcohol. There was no discussion or even asking if I wanted to do something else they just gave me the easy thing they though I wouldn’t mess up despite it being for my closest friend.
    Response: It could have been just as simple as asking them to join into the baking. Most times men do not help in the kitchen or women are just associated with kitchen activities, but heck I hate baking. Maybe you could have gotten alcohol sure, but if you do be straightforward how were they supposed to know what your feelings and hopes were. (1112)
    “That we all do not like talking out how we are feeling. I think we have been raised since birth under the impression that we are not supposed to so that causes some of us to be emotionally distant. Just as women are three dimensional, complex human beings, men are as well.”
    I find it interesting that guys actually want to have friendships with a girl so that they can talk about their feelings, because as the person said, they grow up under the impression that they should not show their feelings. (8804)

    3. ...honestly revealed something about male perceptions, feelings or thoughts that you suspect that they generally might be very reluctant to admit to if their comments were not anonymous?
    “There are several things that I like about women, however, the thing that sticks out to me the most is the effort that they put into everything they do. Women tend to put in more effort than men do when it comes to appearances, relationships, and any work or activity that they are participating in. They also have a more nurturing and caring nature than men do which makes it easier and better to go to my friends that are girls when problems arise in my life. I dislike how self-critical they can be and how judgmental they can be towards others. I also dislike how they tend to over analyze every situation and rarely listen to guys when they are trying to help them.”
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  4. page Reactions-to-men edited ... that it evoked a sincere sense empathy in you? 3.It is constantly misunderstood how damaging …
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    that it evoked a sincere sense empathy in you?
    3.It is constantly misunderstood how damaging it is to be a boy growing up in our culture. Sure in a man’s world we have it made but the pressure of our culture of reclusion to be a “man” is, from a psychological perspective, one of the single worst steps a human can take for mental health. Women clearly have the short end of the stick in the outer society but their culture of interpersonal connection is a huge defense network considering men are discouraged from investing in people emotionally. Historically women have filled the positive role as family care and the negative role as disposable objects of sex. Men filled the positive role as providers and the negative role as disposable objects of war. Sexism is at play on both sides of the field generally as a tool to separate the rich from the poor not to separate the men from the women. I’m not arguing which side is more of a struggle but I do believe that the male culture of independence is too much for a young boy to shoulder and yet we are forever expected to be the solid rock, the stability, to be unbroken when really we just hide our cracks. That being said, Kintsugi is the most beautiful artwork on the planet. (6275)
    “Women are really good at complex social thought and getting to the root causes of issues or motivations of others which is valuable. I feel women are weak in caring far too deeply about what others think of them. This can lead to a number of self-esteem and mental health or even body issues.”
    This comment shows an understanding in how much women overthink about the way people perceive them. I can be caught up in this at times, it it was cool to see that this male understands how big of an issue it is for women and how it can lead to other issues. (8804)

    This response really captured me and caught me off guard. I had never thought about being a male this way and that they actually might have to face difficulties. While I knew that men struggled to show emotions, however I never really considered the social pressures that society has created that keep men from truly being able to express oneself. I cannot image the struggle of having to grow up knowing you can only show a piece (or even less) of your emotions. However, many women have started to feel as though they are unable to show emotions because society will make them out to be either crazy, unstable, or hormonal. Women who are fighting the patriarchy to hold high positions of power must watch their every move. Not only do we have to fight to have these positions but once in the position we are constantly teetering between being the bItchy bossy hag and being the unstable, emotional, period-driven lunatic. (2101)
    1. ...was written so well or eloquently, or addressed such a personal issue, that it evoked a sincere sense empathy in you?
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    This line made me laugh because it’s terrible, but it works. This line doesn’t just work for guys but it can also work for girls as well. I’ve heard many stories where guys have been “friendzoned” by a girl in that exact manner (7643).
    “I love that women can listen intently, deeply, and give good advice. I love that I can usually feel comforted by some sort of interaction with a woman, especially my mom. I especially enjoy their desire to nurture and support, as I feel like I can be open and real with women. I also appreciate how much effort they put into looking their best. I don’t particularly appreciate how they can be so petty or judgmental towards other women they may be competing with. I can be put off by how manipulative they can be towards others.” I appreciated this male’s perspective on women as being nurturing and supportive. It is a nice contrast to the perception that males just see women as sexual objects made for their pleasure. This males comment was humanizing and an important aspect of women that is extremely different from men. In the context of emotional support, I think men have much to learn from women. His comment about women competing with one another being unattractive was an interesting perspective that I completely understand and agree with, but at the same time, men can be very competitive amongst one another as well. (8090)
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    I understand wanting to be with someone attractive but saying that it’s shameful to be seen with someone is pretty harsh. I don’t think that guys would say this on the discussion board had they not remained anonymous. Sure, you may not run in the same social circles but calling someone an embarrassment is extremely unkind and I wouldn’t expect anyone to admit this in person. (8003)
    “I like that they pay attention to their looks and are therefore pleasing to look at. This makes it fun for me to talk to/interact with them and conveys the message that they want males to feel attracted/drawn to them, since they pay attention to their looks mainly for males (at least that is what I think the main reason behind that is), and as most people, male or female, would agree, feeling wanted is a great feeling. I also like that females tend to seem like they enjoy being unassertive when it comes to their interactions with males (and this is most probably a product of society and how females and males are raised). I dislike that females tend to be more dramatic compared to males in the sense that a behavior or a pattern of behavior that might not even occur to a male to be offensive or disrespectful in any way can be seen (or not truly perceived that way but held) by a female as extremely offensive or disrespectful. This often times lead to the female accusing the male of being “emotionally inept”, insensitive, or deficiencies of that nature, whereas the male might view the bigger part of the problem to lie with the female and her extreme (seemingly to the male) emotional sensitivity (I think there definitely is a biological component to such differences in emotional intensities). I also do not like that females gossip (publicly or privately) more than males do. It turns into belittling others for their own pleasure and is an example “schadenfreude”. (5966)”
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    Yes, I believe that women are given preferential treatment especially in night social-settings. Women are let into parties and bars much more frequently that men, and once inside they are given preferential treatment often by being bought drinks, etc.
    This comment sheds light on the social tendency for women to have things provided for them by men, especially in the nightlife scene. Because of this, women likely do feel a sense of empowerment over men because men will cater to their needs and buy them things solely based on the fact that they are women. (2908)
    “There also things that I dislike about the opposite sex, like how messy they are. It seems like men are not organized and rely too much on the women in their life to clean up after them, and to know where all their belongings are. Men do not seem to worry about cleaning up after themselves as much as women do, and they are also much more unorganized. Being unorganized may also lead to them not being careful with their money, which becomes a problem in the long run.”
    I enjoyed this comment because I believe it shows the values that some women hold and how they are not afraid to address the things they are better at then males. Most women are much more organized than males and I believe that it is completely fine. (0242)

    “Almost any time I go to a bar, a man offers to buy me a drink; and almost anytime I want to go to a club, I get in for free and get to cut the line. I think being a woman allows you a certain power over men: the power of sex. Guys will do pretty much anything to get a girl to have sex with them. (2307)”
    This comment shows how females often feel a sense of power when they go out to bars or nightclubs. The fact that more females are desired in a venue than males allows for more female acceptance into the venues. Women seem to really enjoy this treatment but it is pretty objectifying in my opinion, it is pretty obvious that females are let in to make the club look good and seem like a good place for males to come spend their money. While females excitedly cut lines in order to be ‘sex objects’ in a sense for men in bars, men wait outside and take turns spending their time and money on the women. (2545)
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  6. page Reactions-to-women edited ... “It puzzles me how males are so simple minded at labeling, whether it is labeling colors, rela…
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    “It puzzles me how males are so simple minded at labeling, whether it is labeling colors, relationships, clothes, or foods, their cognitive thought processes aren’t the same as females. Speaking from a personal experience, my boyfriend at the time labeled me as a “friend” when our relationship was more complex and developed. When I asked him why he called me a “friend”, he said it was because we were not officially dating. From my perspective, the title of a friend has a specific role and characteristics that did not appropriately fit with the type of relationship we had. When it comes to situations like dating or clothing, I feel like men have simple categories filed in their minds. If baffles me how simple minded they are and how they do not have such a large spectrum of thinking like women.”
    This comment is incredibly closed-minded and generalizes all male tendencies. It sounds like this person was bitter because they had romantic feelings for a friend that they were seeing and obviously wanted more. Using this example to generalize that “men have simple categories filed in their minds” and “how simple minded they are” doesn’t reflect the reality of the male condition. I highly disagree with this, and don’t think this woman understands the way men’s brains work. (2908)
    “The one thing men do not understand about women is that we are extremely strong, physically and mentally. Women go through painful menstrual cramps every month and if they decide to have a child- their body goes through a tremendous change. Women also deal with an influx of hormones that take a toll on our mental health!”
    I think that many males do in fact understand how strong women are, especially if they were fortunate enough to have a female figure in their life while going up. I believe that it’s the media that portrays females as weak and needing help, which is what frustrates me about this comment and overall topic. I believe that women are extremely strong and go through things that men could not even imagine, but I do believe that males do understand this and feel that media just makes it look like we do not. (0242)

    “When men think that women belong in the kitchen. Not all women like to cook or even know how to cook.”
    I am upset that this stereotype even exists in 2016 and is still experienced by females. I hope this person can understand that only very ignorant, misogynistic people would say this and the majority of men don’t believe this to be true. (8832)
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  7. page Reactions-to-women edited ... that it evoked a sincere sense empathy in you? “The one thing men do not understand about wom…
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    that it evoked a sincere sense empathy in you?
    “The one thing men do not understand about women is that we are extremely strong, physically and mentally. Women go through painful menstrual cramps every month and if they decide to have a child- their body goes through a tremendous change. Women also deal with an influx of hormones that take a toll on our mental health!”
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    empathy (8674).
    “It puzzles me the way guys are socialized to be less emotional. From personal experience, I have found that guys actually have a lot on their mind and a lot of insecurity that they just chose to mask. I’ve dated guys who have told me that me that I’ve changed their lives because I’ve helped them realize and come to terms with things about themselves that they never let themselves look into before I encouraged them. While it does both me that men sometimes act more rationally than emotionally and struggle to pick up on social cues, I believe some of this has to do with socialization, not inability.”
    I believe that this topic is commonly discussed between friends and on a societal level, however, it never really gets down into the root cause as to why men seem to not show their emotions. In society, boys are taught from a very young age that crying is not for guys and that you should always have a strong front on. We are supposed to be the protectors and support systems for everyone else. The entertainment industry and social media constantly remind men of that and I believe it is the reason why so many males have a difficult time being able to comfortably discuss their feelings and emotions. (0242)

    “I like that men are providers and often times take care of their families. I enjoy how men look and the joy they bring when I am attracted to them. I like that men are confident or at least that they act confident and “fake it until they make it”. I like that men tend to have a more easygoing personality and sense of humor, they tend to take my jokes less seriously than women. I dislike that the opposite sex appears to be emotionally handicapped when it comes to problems in relationships. I have heard from so many girlfriends of mine that their boyfriends or ex boyfriends are the same way. It makes me wonder are we the problem, or are they? We may be too sensitive, but they may be emotionless. It could be a mix of both. I dislike that men tend to have big egos and often come off arrogant. This could mean they are trying to cover up insecurities to fit in with society’s view on how they should act and feel. “
    I like this comment because it is open-minded and very insightful. Instead of placing all men in a negative categorization, she acknowledges the positive aspects men sometimes bring to a relationship. She also implies that the emotional dissonance between the sexes is not strictly the man’s fault, but a mutual misunderstanding form both sides. The bit about men often faking their confidence is also very true. (8832)
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  8. page Reactions-to-women edited ... “I feel that men most misunderstand that women crave attention. Women put a lot of effort into…
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    “I feel that men most misunderstand that women crave attention. Women put a lot of effort into their looks and in everything they do, so for a man to ignore the work that women put in and not pay attention to the ways that she tries to get him to notice her can be frustrating.”
    This comment shows the evolved difference in the way males and females seek attention from the opposite sex. Women use makeup and jewelry to appear pretty to men and men are aggressive and dominant to appear powerful to women. Both of these actions are sometimes unnoticed by the other gender, but ultimately they are engrained behaviors that help attract mates. (2908)
    “I have not yet gone after someone I find attracted, therefore I have not felt rejected by someone I find attractive.(8804)”
    I found it somewhat funny how so many females made posts similar to this one. Many noted that they had never felt rejected because they had never even put themselves out there to members of the opposite sex. This is predictable by evolutionary psychology. Women hold far greater reproductive value than men so more often than not, it is not necessary for them to put themselves out there to find a mate. There is a male for every woman but not a woman for every male. This is reflected in what is known as disenfranchised males. (1761)

    “I would probably just look at him, smile and laugh at what he’s saying and try to be funny. I’ve never made a move physically; I usually just wait until he does.”
    “I’ve never made a move physically” is a clear example of sexual selection that can be seen everywhere in nature. The woman never has to make the first move because there will always be a man interested in her (8832)
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    “they respect, care, and appreciate me, take me seriously, value me, listen to me, give me attention, do romantic things, give me flowers, love my dogs, and are honest. (3892)”
    This comment, along with several other comments to the question: ‘I feel best about the opposite sex when…’ were all related to the feeling of respect and attention. I find it particularly interesting that almost all of the comments included some sort of word or phrase regarding love and/or attention. This particular comment posted above used several different words and phrases that all essentially mean the same thing, it is obvious that this female desires above all else; attention and respect. (2545)
    “The first thing that attracts me to a guy is my ability to trust him. I chronically date my best guy friends because they earn my trust, and by the time we start dating I generally consider them the most genuine and caring people I know. In general, I tend to gravitate towards quieter/nice guys with a sense of humor. If they make me feel comfortable and loved and aren’t afraid to be a little more on the sensitive side, then I gradually become more and more attracted. No specific physical characteristics except for maybe being more muscular/stocky. (3816)”
    Whoever wrote this post deserves an award. Every guy who has ever been “friend-zoned” dreams of a situation like this. I was really taken back when I originally read this post because I have never heard a female ever say that she dates her best guy friends. Typically, it seems like females don’t like to mix friendships into their love life. What she said in terms of knowing she can trust one of her best guy friends the most makes sense and I wish more females thought that way. (1761)

    “One instance when a man rejected me was sophomore year by a friend. I was very attracted to him but we were such good friends and he didn't want to jeopardize the friendship we had built over the past couple years. He was very nice about it and we're still friends today without any sort of tension between us.”
    For all the heat men have been getting in the women’s comments, this comment clearly demonstrates that some men are actually just as considerate as women. In this example the man valued his genuine friendship with a girl over sexual intimacy. (8832)
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    “One strength of males is that they can be more intimidating than women and that they often use this trait to get what they want. I think that men often use their intimidating demeanor as a scare tactic while some don't have that.”
    As we have seen in class, males compared to females are much stronger and better equipped for fighting due to evolutionary circumstances. I believe males can intimidate other males and females while females cannot really intimidate other males. However I do not believe that this is something most males knowingly do. (8832)
    “I have been treated unfairly by the opposite sex in ways that showed a presumed assumption of my physical and mental capabilities just because I am female. There’s been times at the gym when I feel extremely judged when I’m picking up heavier weights and a male stops me and asks me if I meant to grab that specific weight. Or in group projects, every time it’s been a creative project and I’m the only girl in the group, I automatically feel pressure to do majority of the work for the sake of my grade and for the instant tendencies that males have to give that responsibility to women. (8701).”
    The first part of this post does not surprise me. I too am guilty of judging women for lifting heavy weights at the gym. Even though I know it’s wrong, it’s a natural tendency of mine to feel as if something is out of place. The second part of the post came as a surprise to me. She points out how she feels obligated to do all of the work on a project when she is the only female in the group. She goes as far as saying there are “instant tendencies that males have to give that responsibility to women.” This highlights how she feels manipulated by males, especially in a group setting. While I could see how males could sometimes be lazier or less willing to participate on group projects I think this is an over generalization. I don’t think there exists a norm in which women must assume all of the responsibilities of the group project. But then again, as a male I am biased. (1761)

    “One instance where I remember being treated unfairly was in high school, specifically in the marching band. In marching band, we had section leaders, who were assigned to each section in order to supervise and help when the band director could not. Often times, the section leader is supposed to be the most capable player in the section, and even though I was more capable than one of my counterparts, they were chosen instead of me. Even when we were both the section leaders, often times people would ask him for this advice in terms of music instead of me, usually when they were not from our section and did not know about the differences in our abilities”
    This comment demonstrates the majority belief that women are subordinate to men. Instead of a single person demonstrating this belief, an entire group seeked direction from the male over the female. This could be the result of stigma or social norms since she claims she was the most capable leader. (8832)
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    “I believe their strengths are the ability to be empathetic, communicate well, and to understand most situations through multiple perspectives. Women are able to express their feelings in a more articulate way than men can while also having the ability to sense when others around them are dealing with a difficult time. They can also see situations through other individuals’ perspectives and help them get through these situations by looking at situation in more than one scope. One weakness that I believe women possess is caring too much about what others think about them. I believe that women are also concerned what others think which is why they need to constantly be complimented and reassured by those around them. I also think that this plays a factor in them being more self-critical.”
    I empathized with this comment because I feel like it tries to empower women. Even the weakness that was mentioned touched base on how women are extremely hard on themselves because they want others to like them - when they shouldn’t be because being self-critical will only bring them down. (1857)
    2. …disturbed and/or upset you, and why?
    “My male friend in high school was raped by a girl and received no help from the school or authorities. We were at a party and this girl was making a very obvious attempt to get him as intoxicated as possible. After having too much to drink, some of his friends took him out to their car, laid down some seats, and left him out there to sleep it off. Later in the night the girl who has been force feeding him alcohol was found out at the car trying to have sex with my male friend. She had taken off his clothes, put a condom on him and was having sex with a guy who was next to unconscious. The next day he had no recollection of the incident and was horrified at what had happened. When he attempted to report what happened, he was told that rape cases against males are very tricky because it’s hard to argue that it wasn't consensual if you had an erect penis. (5768)”
    This response was upsetting to read because there are so many cases of rape in which males are victims, but they are generally not believed or not taken seriously. With more and more cases of sexual assault coming to light in recent years, there has been an outpour of support shown to protect female victims of rape, but there are significantly fewer allies for male victims. It’s upsetting to read that even though we know that both sexes can be victims of assault, males’ stories are so often swept under the rug in this context. (6061)
    3. ...honestly revealed something about male perceptions, feelings, or thoughts that you suspect that they generally might be very reluctant to admit to if their comments were not anonymous?
    “Junior year I asked out my friend after months of constant all day communication. She rejected me which I somewhat expected but was crushed due to the massive reserve of hope I had stashed somewhere in the back of my mind. They weren’t rude or insensitive but I was so crushed I went home and laid in bed for 36 hours. I began to find it unfair that she led me on for so many months when clearly she could tell I had feelings for her. Women, I know it’s expected of men to be upfront about our intentions but if we aren’t do us a favor and let us in or cut us off early. (6275)”
    I think a male would be less forthcoming in sharing that he had taken rejection from a female hard enough that he laid in bed for 36 hours. Men aren’t exactly willing to share stories of rejection, possibly because there is a sort of shame that society has associated with being unable to obtain a partner. (6061)
    6. …revealed something about how males may feel a sense of powerlessness in comparison to women, or how they may feel manipulated by women?
    “Subjecting them to questioning on values-based topics, priorities, hypothetical situations, and short-term/long-term plans. Additionally, there will likely be tests involving faithfulness and honesty in the relationship. (9698)”
    It’s pretty easy to see how males could feel manipulated by women when it comes to proving their potential as a partner. I think the majority of women, in some form or another, test their partners to determine whether the relationship will survive, and this may result in the male feeling as if they can never say or do what the women wants them to say or do. In this scenario, even if the male does meet the woman’s expectations, he will most likely have to pass more “tests” and if he doesn’t meet her expectations, she may end the relationship. (6061)

    3. ...honestly revealed something about male perceptions, feelings or
    thoughts that you suspect that they generally might be very
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